tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8064775376143663732024-03-29T03:30:31.933-07:00She's Found StrengthLinda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.comBlogger585125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-34323411885724523572024-03-29T03:30:00.000-07:002024-03-29T03:30:00.150-07:00Why You Should Write Letters to God<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">You make time for who and what you want. It can become easy to overlook the simple yet profound act of writing. Yet, during all the hectic things that happen in life there's a timeless practice that holds immense power: writing letters to God.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJWEdCjFgHd4wlIHuE2aJMFt3II1Vs_q1q8mA5TF7TSSINy9cNLYYKJG9hGYPEmWbImp1kxOCDD9VPLliKZxX8IBH9qD1IkIbUBp6K794Z-4BCnWbfOFapReerICdJliWQsMb4mj7TQ6aWnB1IWCLwlwVvuxS6Jr9hAsuzI1YxqrsG_8Zakg1a8LtraCqy/s3500/pexels-arina-krasnikova-7005607.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3500" data-original-width="2336" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJWEdCjFgHd4wlIHuE2aJMFt3II1Vs_q1q8mA5TF7TSSINy9cNLYYKJG9hGYPEmWbImp1kxOCDD9VPLliKZxX8IBH9qD1IkIbUBp6K794Z-4BCnWbfOFapReerICdJliWQsMb4mj7TQ6aWnB1IWCLwlwVvuxS6Jr9hAsuzI1YxqrsG_8Zakg1a8LtraCqy/w428-h640/pexels-arina-krasnikova-7005607.jpg" width="428" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-cc785537-7fff-0ec8-b1e5-76a06a6116e9"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Whether you're a devout believer, a spiritual seeker, or someone exploring faith, writing letters to God offers a unique opportunity for reflection, connection, and growth. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Here are five compelling reasons why you should consider picking up a pen and pouring out your heart to the Divine:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Expression of Gratitude: </b>Writing letters to God provides a tangible outlet for expressing gratitude. Taking the time to acknowledge and thank the Divine for blessings, big and small, cultivates a spirit of appreciation in our hearts. It shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have been given, fostering a sense of contentment and joy.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Reflection and Self-Discovery: </b>Writing is a deep introspective process. As we put pen to paper, we dig deep into the recesses of our hearts and minds. We explore our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. Writing letters to God helps us to gain insights into ourselves—our hopes, fears, doubts, and dreams. It's a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, facilitated by the gentle guidance of divine presence.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>A Channel for Prayer:</b> Writing letters to God comes into the form of prayer—a sacred dialogue between the human soul and the Divine. Whether we're seeking guidance, solace, or strength, our written words become prayers lifted heavenward. In times of struggle or uncertainty, writing can offer peace and assurance. It's the sweet feeling of knowing that truth is heard and held by a loving Creator.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Emotional Healing and Release: </b>There's a cathartic power in putting our thoughts and emotions into words. Writing letters to God provides a safe space to express our deepest joys, sorrows, and struggles. It allows the release of pent-up emotions, find closure, and experience emotional healing. Through writing, we surrender our burdens to a higher power, trusting in divine grace and mercy to lighten our load.</span></p><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Building a Relationship with God: </b>Like any relationship, our connection with the Divine requires nurturing and communication. Writing letters to God fosters intimacy and deepens our relationship with the Divine. It's an invitation to share our hearts openly and authentically, knowing that we are accepted and loved unconditionally. As we cultivate this sacred practice, we grow closer to God, experiencing His presence in profound and transformative ways.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In conclusion, writing letters to God is a soul-nourishing endeavor that offers myriad benefits for spiritual growth and personal development. Whether you're seeking solace in times of trouble, expressing gratitude for life's blessings, or simply desiring a deeper connection with the Divine, pick up a pen and begin writing. You may be surprised by the impact it has on your heart, mind, and soul.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-9992214422144178572024-03-25T03:00:00.000-07:002024-03-25T03:00:00.201-07:00Five Quality Traits of a Remarkable Woman<p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Qualities are often overshadowed by superficial standards these days. It's key to acknowledge and celebrate the timeless attributes of a remarkable woman. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5MbVXebpaqENxZlodiz8Sc26PeGM5y7dRp_e9xz1Nq4PRp8KQ8fZ4Hz588hUGBJ7QEUZjBMcIElm6lUAaLWHeo3YMrvt_60dUbCQHhet_Mgooczq15e7HqDCSS8dXNIVd1-3jc-Q4GrLB3DhIMQXesSKp10kwXfgQVY4fJaToXp9mBvWslLApGNaBL9QJ/s4896/pexels-joshua-mcknight-1544733.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3264" data-original-width="4896" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5MbVXebpaqENxZlodiz8Sc26PeGM5y7dRp_e9xz1Nq4PRp8KQ8fZ4Hz588hUGBJ7QEUZjBMcIElm6lUAaLWHeo3YMrvt_60dUbCQHhet_Mgooczq15e7HqDCSS8dXNIVd1-3jc-Q4GrLB3DhIMQXesSKp10kwXfgQVY4fJaToXp9mBvWslLApGNaBL9QJ/w640-h426/pexels-joshua-mcknight-1544733.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span><p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Beyond the external many women embody strength, empathy, and wisdom. So, what exactly sets a quality woman apart? Let's delve into five timeless traits that epitomize her essence:</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-326e8208-7fff-85aa-4e75-b8e5f6135e48"><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">1. Strength in Vulnerability</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Contrary to popular belief, vulnerability isn't a sign of weakness. Vulnerability is a testament to profound strength. A quality woman embraces vulnerability as a pathway to authenticity. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">She's unafraid to reveal her imperfections, knowing that it's through vulnerability that genuine connections are forged. Whether facing adversity or expressing her deepest emotions, she does so with grace and resilience, inspiring others to embrace their vulnerabilities.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">2. Empathy and Compassion</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Empathy is the cornerstone of human connection. A quality woman embodies this virtue effortlessly. She possesses an innate ability to understand and share the feelings of others, offering solace and support without judgment.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Her compassion knows no bounds, extending kindness to friends and strangers alike. In a world fraught with turmoil, her empathetic presence is a beacon of hope, fostering a culture of empathy and understanding.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">3. Integrity and Authenticity</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Integrity is the bedrock of character, and a quality woman upholds this value with unwavering conviction. She lives her life in alignment with her principles, refusing to compromise her integrity for fleeting gains. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Authentic to the core, she's unapologetically herself in a world that often demands conformity. Her actions speak volumes, reflecting honesty, transparency, and a steadfast commitment to her beliefs.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">4. Resilience in Adversity</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Life's journey is fraught with challenges, but how we navigate them defines us. A quality woman exemplifies resilience in the face of adversity, turning setbacks into opportunities for growth. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">She refuses to be defined by her circumstances, choosing to rise above them with unwavering determination. Each obstacle becomes a stepping stone toward personal evolution, strengthening her resolve and fortifying her spirit.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">5. Lifelong Learning and Growth</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Embracing a growth mindset is a quality woman recognizes that learning is a lifelong journey. She approaches each experience as an opportunity for growth. She is eager to expand her horizons and broaden her perspective through formal education, meaningful relationships, or introspective self-discovery.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">She continually seeks to evolve into the best version of herself. Her insatiable thirst for knowledge fuels her ambition, propelling her towards greater heights of personal and professional fulfillment.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Therefore, a quality woman transcends societal labels and expectations, embodying a rare blend of inner strength, empathy, integrity, resilience, and a relentless pursuit of growth.</i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i> She serves as a beacon of inspiration, challenging us to redefine our perceptions of what it means to be truly remarkable. As we celebrate these timeless traits, let us recognize and honor the invaluable contributions of quality women in shaping a more compassionate, empathetic, and equitable world.</i></span></p><br /></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-85279310185123827302024-03-22T02:30:00.000-07:002024-03-22T02:30:00.149-07:00Overcoming Depression and Anxiety as a Single Mom<p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Being a mom is one thing. Being a single mom is another. Even if we had 8 arms the amount of work and parenting responsibilities to managing finances and maintaining a household, the daily grind can often feel overwhelming. But for some of us, the challenges extend beyond the tangible responsibilities. Sometimes mental health struggles like depression and anxiety can try to plague our lives as well.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiIeQwnopnbC_d7K-14rxbYoPzi3ZmSRtCMYqMTkewPl-zaSbdvJaaPP4jfvHQRb0pMTYWlPZOlMR4rj04YJXAje9kHN-FVvk41FRME2ft24eO2Ip_AWXSqTlwhl0xsvZf7u2YGjckFBS3TNGIRzhaC_MyVutFOgX04sgLs3UaIUU3dGTL9PuJbeq0jnQ6G/s6587/pexels-rdne-stock-project-6192231.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6587" data-original-width="4391" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiIeQwnopnbC_d7K-14rxbYoPzi3ZmSRtCMYqMTkewPl-zaSbdvJaaPP4jfvHQRb0pMTYWlPZOlMR4rj04YJXAje9kHN-FVvk41FRME2ft24eO2Ip_AWXSqTlwhl0xsvZf7u2YGjckFBS3TNGIRzhaC_MyVutFOgX04sgLs3UaIUU3dGTL9PuJbeq0jnQ6G/w426-h640/pexels-rdne-stock-project-6192231.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span><p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span><span id="docs-internal-guid-f81152c7-7fff-cc9f-e6df-473d91616796"><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">For a long time, I battled silently with these demons of depression and anxiety. I have learned how to put on a brave face for my children while feeling like I was drowning inside. The weight of it all seemed insurmountable. There were days when just getting out of the bed I shared with my kids left me weary in tears. But through the darkness, a glimmer of hope emerged – a determination to not let my circumstances define me, but rather to rise above them and reclaim my happiness.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Acknowledging the Problem</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The first step in my journey towards healing was acknowledging that I needed help. For far too long, I had brushed aside my feelings, convincing myself that I was just going through a light situation or stressed. But as the days turned into weeks and the weeks into months, it became clear that this was more than just fatigue – it was a battle for my mental well-being.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Seeking Support</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As a single mom, it can be easy to fall into the trap of trying to do it alone. But I quickly realized that I couldn't fight this battle alone. I reached out to friends and family for support, opening up about my struggles and allowing myself to be vulnerable. Their unwavering love and encouragement became my lifeline, reminding me I was not alone in this fight.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I also sought professional help. Scheduling therapy sessions to address the root causes of my depression and anxiety. Self-care looked more like purchasing books to help strengthen my mind and thoughts. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As well as talking to a trained therapist provided me with invaluable tools and coping mechanisms to navigate the ups and downs of single parenthood while prioritizing my mental health.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Practicing Self-Care</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As a single mom, it's easy to put your needs on the back burner. I understand how prioritizing the well-being of your children can come above all else. But I quickly learned that self-care isn't selfish – it's necessary for survival. I started carving out time for myself each day. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Whether it was going to shower until the hot water ran cold, putting my kids to bed earlier to have an extra hour to myself, or indulging in a good book. These small acts of self-love helped recharge my spirit and gave me the strength to face each day with renewed vigor.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Finding Joy in the Little Things</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">During my struggles, I made an effort to find joy in the little things. The little things can be as simple as hearing my children's laughter. The warmth of the sun on my face. The peace I have once my kids are fast asleep. By focusing on the present moment and cultivating gratitude for the blessings in my life, I was able to shift my perspective and find solace amid chaos.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Setting Goals and Moving Forward</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Recovery from depression and anxiety is not a linear journey. It’s realistically okay to experience setbacks along the way. But instead of dwelling on the past, I choose to focus on the future. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Setting small achievable goals to work towards each day helps. Whether it is pursuing a new hobby, putting time towards my passions, or simply being present for my children, I am committed to taking proactive steps toward a better future.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Closing Thoughts</i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Being a single mom coping with depression and anxiety is not easy, but it's a battle worth fighting. Through self-reflection, support from loved ones, and a commitment to self-care, I am determined to overcome these obstacles and emerge stronger than before. My journey towards healing is ongoing. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">However, I am reminded of my resilience and the power of hope. Though the road may be long and challenging, I face it with unwavering determination. I have faith in knowing that a brighter future awaits on the other side.</span></p><div><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-16950659276176027212024-03-21T18:01:00.000-07:002024-03-21T18:01:05.440-07:003 Things You Learn When Going Through Hard Times Alone<p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">It can be painful knowing you are in a situation that you can’t understand how you will be able to get out of. Life can take us through things whether it's a personal loss, a career setback, or a health crisis. Difficult times can leave us feeling isolated and overwhelmed.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIoXUoqx6LUeeMxyk_Uwp25GWVgCe_dE480i_lqXBAzkuS8CON6nXSSuNc2ry0OqHyajSc_ZnlsTUu8nAvoN6tJiAYsjnivR6jLHtBNwx_d9SuK5vKMCoZ49q6FlqmifR7IHcVa9gRtKkYH0MOLhiAyNmaRjD-ALxy-odByKt40nzdiYUWtu2noaeiYuNl/s5793/pexels-fillipe-gomes-2250276.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5793" data-original-width="4272" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIoXUoqx6LUeeMxyk_Uwp25GWVgCe_dE480i_lqXBAzkuS8CON6nXSSuNc2ry0OqHyajSc_ZnlsTUu8nAvoN6tJiAYsjnivR6jLHtBNwx_d9SuK5vKMCoZ49q6FlqmifR7IHcVa9gRtKkYH0MOLhiAyNmaRjD-ALxy-odByKt40nzdiYUWtu2noaeiYuNl/w472-h640/pexels-fillipe-gomes-2250276.jpg" width="472" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Conquering through hard times alone can also be a profound learning experience. When we get through our hard times that’s how and when we discover resilience, inner strength, and the power of self-reliance. Here are three valuable lessons that emerge when navigating adversity solo:</span></span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-4bbb07e6-7fff-6749-4679-8bf67daa6b5b"><h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.92; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: -1pt 0pt 4pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 16.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">1. Self-Discovery and Resilience</span></span></h3><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Adversities can make us feel forced to confront our deepest fears and vulnerabilities When finding the mental strength to get through a hardship, we have no choice but to rely on ourselves to find a way forward. This journey of self-discovery often reveals inner reservoirs of strength and resilience that we never knew we possessed.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">As we navigate through the darkness, we learn to adapt, evolve, and grow stronger with each challenge we overcome. We discover that resilience is not about avoiding hardships. Resilience comes about from embracing tough situations as opportunities for growth and self-improvement. Through the process of overcoming obstacles alone, we can dive into building our confidence in our ability to weather life's storms.</span></span></p><h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.92; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: -1pt 0pt 4pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 16.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">2. The Importance of Self-Reliance</span></span></h3><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">In times of need, we can find help. However, there are moments when we find ourselves standing alone. There sometimes is no one to turn to but ourselves. It's during these humbling moments we realize the true value of self-reliance.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Going through hard times alone teaches us to trust our instincts. We can understand how to make tough decisions and take ownership of our actions. We learn to rely on our inner wisdom and intuition. We do not look to seek validation or approval from external sources. In doing so, we develop a deeper sense of self-reliance and independence. We then feel empowered to face life's challenges with courage and determination.</span></span></p><h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.92; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: -1pt 0pt 4pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 16.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">3. Gratitude and Perspective</span></span></h3><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">When we're in a difficult situation, it's easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. However, going through hard times alone often gives us a unique life perspective. In solitude, we learn to appreciate the simple joys and blessings surrounding us, even in the darkest moments.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 15pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Through humbling times of hardship, we gain a newfound appreciation for the things we once took for granted – our health, our loved ones, and our love for the simple things in life. We learn to cultivate gratitude for the small victories and moments of grace that bring light into our lives, even amidst adversity.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #0d0d0d; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">In conclusion, going through hard times alone can be a challenging yet transformative experience. In the solitude of hardship, we can discover our inner strength, resilience, and capacity for growth. We can learn by embracing these lessons while emerging from the darkness with a renewed sense of purpose, gratitude, and resilience to face whatever challenges lie ahead. Remember, you are stronger than you think. Your future self will be able to thank you for never giving in or giving up.</span></span></p></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-27313408880649748162024-03-11T04:30:00.000-07:002024-03-11T04:30:00.205-07:00Why Not Giving Him Any Energy and Leaving Him on Read Is Empowering<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The art of leaving someone on read has become both an act of defiance and a symbol of empowerment, especially in romantic or interpersonal relationships. We've all been there – faced with messages from someone who doesn't deserve our time or attention, someone who drains our energy with their constant need for validation or their manipulative tactics. But what if we reclaimed our power by simply not engaging?</span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVPynTKxKjch5lngUSyzyeSZC5i3C3N-Ogx8OZR-HpfyGKW-2PzwIYL5fzZ-1VZMpJOtJYPWh4d0Q8Wm3AtbTOyLydV5oc1yTc9AeF7yboQn3FAUaM5Ac5EnJzyv4KbKNsBkN6IDR2G1Zw_wAbT5DGaAeqQMnOeVha0NtsbENQRI7tHqE9uHVpTRLULcYO/s5472/pexels-jorge-fakhouri-filho-2701570.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5472" data-original-width="3648" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVPynTKxKjch5lngUSyzyeSZC5i3C3N-Ogx8OZR-HpfyGKW-2PzwIYL5fzZ-1VZMpJOtJYPWh4d0Q8Wm3AtbTOyLydV5oc1yTc9AeF7yboQn3FAUaM5Ac5EnJzyv4KbKNsBkN6IDR2G1Zw_wAbT5DGaAeqQMnOeVha0NtsbENQRI7tHqE9uHVpTRLULcYO/w426-h640/pexels-jorge-fakhouri-filho-2701570.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><span id="docs-internal-guid-d87058a7-7fff-58a3-2040-0aeb9219a53a"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Leaving someone on read, means ignoring their messages or choosing not to respond, may seem like a small gesture, but its impact can be profound. It's a statement that says, </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">"I refuse to give you any more of my energy." </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It's a boundary-setting mechanism that asserts your autonomy and self-worth. Here's why embracing this practice can be incredibly empowering:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Preserving Your Energy: </b>Engaging with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries or treats you poorly can be emotionally draining. By choosing not to respond, you're protecting your mental and emotional well-being. You're prioritizing yourself and refusing to be drawn into unnecessary drama or toxicity.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Setting Boundaries: </b>Leaving someone on read is a clear boundary-setting tactic. It sends a message that you won't tolerate disrespect or mistreatment. In a world where boundaries are often overlooked or disregarded, this simple act asserts your right to autonomy and self-respect.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Refusing to Feed the Ego:</b> Some people thrive on attention and validation. By not responding to their messages, you're refusing to feed into their ego. You're reminding them that your time and attention are valuable and not to be taken for granted.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Fostering Independence:</b> Choosing not to engage with someone who doesn't value you encourages independence and self-reliance. You're demonstrating that you don't need validation or approval from others to feel whole and complete.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Empowering Yourself: </b>Ultimately, leaving someone on read is an empowering act. It's a declaration of self-worth and self-respect. It's about taking control of your narrative and refusing to be a passive participant in someone else's game.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Of course, there are situations where communication is necessary, and ignoring someone's messages may not be appropriate. However, in cases where someone consistently disrespects your boundaries or makes you feel uncomfortable, leaving them on read can be a powerful tool for asserting your autonomy and reclaiming your power.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In conclusion, the act of not giving someone any energy and leaving them “on read” is about more than just ignoring messages – it's about reclaiming your power, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your well-being.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It's a small but significant way to assert your autonomy and refuse to be drawn into dynamics that don't serve you. So the next time you're faced with a message from someone who doesn't deserve your time or attention, remember the power of silence and the strength that comes from refusing to engage.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-49608152830239857462024-03-09T04:30:00.000-08:002024-03-09T04:30:00.128-08:00Embracing the "Boring" Sex Life as a Single Woman<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">There are many inundated with narratives of steamy encounters, wild escapades, and fiery passion, but there's a quieter, less celebrated reality: the "boring" sex life. For many single women, navigating the realm of intimacy without the thrill of constant novelty can feel like traversing uncharted territory. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgusJWDihlLvhQ-Dfsva7KTc-Zb_ULOPYBkuwt3aCNtHUsXU3b3O3Aq5JDMSVvIunWBNMdiosE3OynWQgl0o2APNbNqmpmM8yN72YBy0SpVK5PCfjWnSHXisNO8OTHxo3L5QEfRnswPRfDvY3uPANPn-WAYn6TRCkEJVIaA2wq38lfO_N05P6Gl5OdoocZe/s4601/pexels-jacob-of-rugged-branch-2775214.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4601" data-original-width="3000" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgusJWDihlLvhQ-Dfsva7KTc-Zb_ULOPYBkuwt3aCNtHUsXU3b3O3Aq5JDMSVvIunWBNMdiosE3OynWQgl0o2APNbNqmpmM8yN72YBy0SpVK5PCfjWnSHXisNO8OTHxo3L5QEfRnswPRfDvY3uPANPn-WAYn6TRCkEJVIaA2wq38lfO_N05P6Gl5OdoocZe/w418-h640/pexels-jacob-of-rugged-branch-2775214.jpg" width="418" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Yet, in this journey lies a profound opportunity for self-discovery, empowerment, and authentic connection.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-9950475e-7fff-3579-94a1-b90f75e29cf4"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As a single woman, I've come to understand, that the term "boring" is subjective and often unfairly stigmatized. Many women are not comfortable with talking about living with a high sex drive and managing it while keeping their goodies to themselves.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Let's start by acknowledging society's obsession with sensationalized sex. The sensationalized thought and act of having sex can create unrealistic expectations and undue pressure. From movies to being on social media, we can see images of passion-filled and mind-blowing orgasms. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It then can lead us to believe that anything less is inadequate. But the truth is, real-life intimacy doesn't always resemble the scenes we see on screen – and that's perfectly okay.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Embracing a so-called "boring" sex life doesn't mean settling for less or resigning oneself to a lackluster existence. Instead, it's about finding fulfillment and pleasure in simplicity, authenticity, and connection. It's about understanding that meaningful intimacy transcends and creates the fireworks.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, what does a "boring" sex life look like in practice? Don’t worry this won’t take long to cover especially for a woman who loves intimacy. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It might involve quiet nights spent cuddling. Gentle kisses that plants upon the skin with a passionate heat. Oh, and of course conversations that deepen emotional intimacy. It's about savoring the small moments and relishing in the comfort of familiarity.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">For single women, there can be a sense of liberation in knowing that your temple is being preserved. Embracing the "boring" – freedom from the pressure to perform or conform to unrealistic standards. It's an opportunity to explore what brings us pleasure and fulfillment without needing external validation.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Moreover, a "boring" sex life can provide fertile ground for self-discovery and personal growth. In the absence of constant excitement of sex, we're invited to explore our desires, boundaries, and fantasies at our own pace. We learn to prioritize our pleasure and communicate our needs openly and honestly.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In a culture that often equates adventure with adrenaline and passion with intensity, it's easy to overlook the quiet beauty of everyday intimacy. There is so much depth and richness in the mundane – in the moments of tenderness, vulnerability, and connection that define our most intimate encounters.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Ultimately, embracing a "boring" sex life as a single woman is about reclaiming grace over our narratives and celebrating the unique beauty of our experiences. It's a reminder that true fulfillment comes not from chasing novelty or excitement but from cultivating authenticity, presence, and connection – with ourselves and others.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, let’s toast to the "boring" sex life – may we embrace it, celebrate it, and find within it the profound richness of our desires and experiences.</span></p></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-8937207247576932692024-03-08T03:30:00.000-08:002024-03-08T03:30:00.129-08:00 Why Some People Hate Your Happiness<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">One may be surprised to find individuals who seem to resent their happiness. They may downplay your achievements. They scoff at your joy. Some of them even actively seek to undermine your contentment. But why? The answer might lie in their own dissatisfaction and misery.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5GDPDloM-QEksu4qYIxh6OV79V_JUZPLr0Dcog0Iizy53Tb6MS-01zvHdJYJ6AgtQ8Iqkd5fV_1hiOHcN_GP76XdzZ3MBOma_ZMRyDNLY0I0Qw58Nv0d8g7Iq3aO3nKJG6KmxA5nu3prbAgvDhFQTMdaBWvRQ1aImMgYTSD6nI2xyYwviQqCxuX2fWdl4/s2999/pexels-daniel-adesina-2308054.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2999" data-original-width="1999" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5GDPDloM-QEksu4qYIxh6OV79V_JUZPLr0Dcog0Iizy53Tb6MS-01zvHdJYJ6AgtQ8Iqkd5fV_1hiOHcN_GP76XdzZ3MBOma_ZMRyDNLY0I0Qw58Nv0d8g7Iq3aO3nKJG6KmxA5nu3prbAgvDhFQTMdaBWvRQ1aImMgYTSD6nI2xyYwviQqCxuX2fWdl4/w426-h640/pexels-daniel-adesina-2308054.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span><span id="docs-internal-guid-b1bf68f2-7fff-172a-ba3b-61106727caf4"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It's a bitter truth that some people hate your happiness because of living boring, miserable lives themselves. They see you glowing. You are not begging them or other people for money, a job, advice, or even a ride. Your personal business is not out in the streets. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">You are not showcasing any worry. In a society that sees photos and videos online of success, wealth, and happiness, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparison. When others around us seem to be thriving while they could be feeling stuck in a rut, jealousy, and resentment.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Here are a few reasons why some individuals might harbor animosity towards your happiness:</b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Comparison Syndrome: </b>Social media has made it all too easy to compare our lives with those of others. Seeing friends and acquaintances post about their successes and adventures can amplify feelings of inadequacy in those who are struggling. Instead of feeling genuinely happy for others, they might resent them for seemingly having it all.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Fear of Failure: </b>Some people are so afraid of failure that they can not stand to see others succeed. Your happiness and success serve as a reminder of what they haven't achieved or what they've missed out on. Rather than confronting their fears and insecurities, they project their negativity onto you.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Misery Loves Company:</b> There's a saying that "misery loves company," and for good reason. When someone is unhappy with their own life, they may feel more comfortable surrounded by others who share their misery. Some people only want to reach out to you when their lives are in shambles to eat at your peace. Your happiness disrupts this dynamic and forces them to confront their unhappiness, which they may not be ready to do.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Lack of Fulfillment: </b>Many people are stuck in monotonous routines. They may feel unfulfilled and uninspired by their daily lives. Seeing someone else living passionately and purposefully can be a painful reminder of what they're missing. Rather than addressing their dissatisfaction, they choose to resent those who have found fulfillment.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Insecurity:</b> Insecure individuals may feel threatened by your happiness because it highlights their shortcomings or perceived inadequacies. They may worry that your success diminishes their own worth. It also may be because your success may outshine them in some way. Instead of addressing their insecurities head-on, they project their feelings of inadequacy onto you.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><u><i>So, what can you do if you find yourself on the receiving end of someone else's resentment?</i></u></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">First and foremost, remember that their negativity is not a reflection of you or your worth. It's a reflection of their own internal struggles and insecurities. Try to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Recognize that their behavior stems from a place of pain.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Secondly, never let their negativity dim your light. Your happiness is valid. Your happiness deserves to be celebrated, regardless of how others may feel about it. Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones who uplift you and encourage your growth.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Lastly, if the relationship becomes toxic or unbearable, don't be afraid to set boundaries or distance yourself from the negativity. Your mental and emotional well-being should always come first.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>In conclusion,</i> while it can be disheartening to encounter people who resent your happiness, it's important to remember that their feelings are rooted in their struggles and insecurities. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The way someone of people feel about you is none of your business. By approaching the situation with empathy and maintaining your own sense of self-worth, you can rise above the negativity and continue to pursue a fulfilling and joyful life.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-46406594925174887332024-03-07T08:42:00.000-08:002024-03-07T08:42:44.006-08:00Why Going Back to Your Ex After a Painful Ending Is Not Worth It<p>Breaking up can be a blessing in your life. Whether it was a mutual decision or the breakup caught you off guard, the end of a relationship can leave you feeling raw, vulnerable, and uncertain about the future. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdUC40fBbC_ycZys5FIBH3Py-l5Gx84TWR330YC9wPA5dUezd9AN1WBYuxMO7PNlJZP1zRKMhWF_gv2OnPThpK_JMktaBTuMLegh3a83Rx_BsYV54PmE15v4Bthv2MXA8l-dHPNnQmwPYstXZvhv7I1XzlKaQRaeunM0I2Nfl-grbcQHB3MfzEQymdZQcX/s6240/pexels-stephany-lorena-16079168.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6240" data-original-width="4160" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdUC40fBbC_ycZys5FIBH3Py-l5Gx84TWR330YC9wPA5dUezd9AN1WBYuxMO7PNlJZP1zRKMhWF_gv2OnPThpK_JMktaBTuMLegh3a83Rx_BsYV54PmE15v4Bthv2MXA8l-dHPNnQmwPYstXZvhv7I1XzlKaQRaeunM0I2Nfl-grbcQHB3MfzEQymdZQcX/w426-h640/pexels-stephany-lorena-16079168.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>It is also natural to find yourself longing for the familiarity and comfort of your past relationship, even if it ended badly. But before you pick up the phone or send that text to your ex, it's essential to consider why going back may not be the best decision for your emotional well-being.</p><p><b>History Repeats Itself:</b> Folks say that history tends to repeat itself. Sometimes rekindling old flames isn’t worth the effort. The issues that led to the breakup in the first place are unlikely to disappear, no matter how much time has passed. Whether it was communication problems, trust issues, or incompatible life goals, these underlying issues will likely resurface if you go back to your ex without addressing them head-on.</p><p><b>Emotional Rollercoaster: </b>Doubling back to an ex after a painful breakup can feel like riding an emotional rollercoaster. The initial rush of reconciliation may provide temporary relief from the pain of the breakup. However, the resurgence of unresolved emotions often follows it. This cycle of highs and lows can be emotionally exhausting and ultimately prevent you from healing and moving on.</p><p><b>Stagnation Instead of Growth: </b>Breakups often provide the opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. By staying attached to your past relationship, you risk stunting your personal development and missing out on the chance to learn from your experiences. Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on moving forward and building a better future for yourself.</p><p><b>Ignoring Red Flags:</b> Romanticizing the past and overlooking the reasons why the relationship ended in the first place can lead you toward heartbreak. Going back to your ex without addressing the underlying issues is akin to sweeping them under the rug. Ignoring red flags and settling for the comfort of that person because of the good times that were shared isn’t going to guarantee you long-term happiness.</p><p><b>Limiting Your Options:</b> By fixating on your ex, you may be closing yourself off to the possibility of finding a more compatible partner who shares your values and goals. Holding onto a past relationship out of fear of being alone or starting over can prevent you from exploring new opportunities and finding happiness elsewhere.</p><p><b>Self-Worth and Self-Respect: </b>Returning to an ex after a painful ending can erode your self-worth and self-respect. Settling for a relationship that doesn't fulfill you or bring out the best in you undermines your sense of value and can leave you feeling trapped and unfulfilled.</p><p>In conclusion, while the temptation to return to your ex after a painful ending may be strong, it's vital to consider the long-term implications of such a decision. Instead of clinging to the past, focus on healing, growing, and creating a future that aligns with your values and aspirations. Remember, you deserve a relationship that brings you joy, fulfillment, and mutual respect – and sometimes, that means letting go of the past and embracing the unknown.</p>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-23695848314811254762024-03-05T23:30:00.000-08:002024-03-05T23:30:00.134-08:00Mastering Weekly Meal Planning on a Budget: A Guide for Single Families<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Meal planning can take a back seat in many households throughout the month. However, with a bit of organization and strategic thinking, it's possible to create filling meals for even the pickiest of eaters in your family while sticking to a budget. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgZPvdMdTm4rmJ5qXH8UZ-6SwQeRnV_tiDFYShuHRNfLQG3Nb9tDDMBqxJu8YcMV9Ym30JMAoxgu-RoGNummmvEV2sAB4D77eiA_i7A9LdU5keJ8tCyATbNhRoMgaHRjZ7cCkoXCkWjC_Rn_E7R0jIUZRiS69YBlR0eyfeEWxVGBnbQJRQsOIlpEQzPLax/s5019/pexels-kampus-production-6297619.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5019" data-original-width="3346" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgZPvdMdTm4rmJ5qXH8UZ-6SwQeRnV_tiDFYShuHRNfLQG3Nb9tDDMBqxJu8YcMV9Ym30JMAoxgu-RoGNummmvEV2sAB4D77eiA_i7A9LdU5keJ8tCyATbNhRoMgaHRjZ7cCkoXCkWjC_Rn_E7R0jIUZRiS69YBlR0eyfeEWxVGBnbQJRQsOIlpEQzPLax/w426-h640/pexels-kampus-production-6297619.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In this guide, we'll explore how to create a weekly food plan for a single-family household, utilizing the <a href="https://www.shesfoundstrength.com/2024/02/how-to-use-50-30-20-budgeting-strategy.html" target="_blank">50-30-20 budgeting principle</a>, even if you're not relying on food stamps.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-47092937-7fff-184c-bf59-0376fc6ba808"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Understanding the 50-30-20 Budget</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The 50-30-20 budgeting principle allocates 50% of your income to needs, 30% to wants, and 20% to savings or debt repayment. When it comes to food planning, this principle can be applied by dedicating a portion of your "needs" budget to groceries.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 1: Assess Your Needs and Wants</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Before diving into meal planning, take stock of your family's dietary preferences, any dietary restrictions, and your weekly schedule. Determine how many meals you'll need to prepare each week and whether there are any special occasions or events to consider.</span></p><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 2: Set a Realistic Budget</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Using the 50-30-20 principle, allocate a portion of your income to groceries. This budget should cover all food expenses, including groceries and dining out. Be realistic about what you can afford while still ensuring a balanced diet.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 3: Plan Your Meals</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Start by browsing recipes that align with your budget and dietary preferences. Look for dishes that use affordable, versatile ingredients and can be easily scaled up or down to accommodate your family size. Consider what you and your kids like. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">For example, chicken nuggets and mac and cheese is a staple in my home. Therefore, I always search for deals on chicken nuggets and stove-top mac and cheese.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Plan your meals for the week, taking into account any ingredients you already have on hand. Aim for a balance of proteins, carbohydrates, fruits, and vegetables to ensure a well-rounded diet. Make a shopping list based on your meal plan to avoid impulse purchases at the store.</span></p><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 4: Shop Smart</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">When shopping for groceries, stick to your list and avoid unnecessary temptations. Look for sales, discounts, and bulk deals to stretch your budget further. Consider shopping at discount grocers or farmers' markets for affordable, fresh produce.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Don't forget to check for coupons or digital deals that can help you save on staple items. Consider buying store-brand products instead of name brands to further reduce costs without sacrificing quality.</span></p><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 5: Prepare Ahead</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">To save time during the week, consider prepping ingredients or even full meals ahead of time. Chop vegetables, marinate meats, or cook large batches of grains and beans that can be used in multiple dishes throughout the week. Investing in reusable containers for meal storage can help keep food fresh and organized.</span></p><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Step 6: Adapt and Adjust</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As you become more familiar with meal planning and budgeting, don't be afraid to experiment and make adjustments along the way. Keep track of what works well for your family and what doesn't, and be open to trying new recipes and techniques to keep things interesting.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Creating a weekly food plan for a single-family household on a budget doesn't have to be daunting. By following the principles of the 50-30-20 budgeting rule and implementing strategic meal-planning strategies, you can enjoy delicious, nutritious meals without breaking the bank. With a little bit of effort and creativity, you can master the art of budget-friendly cooking and provide your family with satisfying meals week after week.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-46101135324570208432024-03-05T08:34:00.000-08:002024-03-05T08:34:15.318-08:00Why I'm Not Settling for a Mediocre Connection While Dating After Divorce <p><span style="font-family: times;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Dating after divorce can be an annoying experience, especially when you're a single mom. As someone who has been through the ups and downs of relationships, you've likely learned what you want and need in a partner. Settling for anything less than a fulfilling connection shouldn't be an option.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: times;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAWiBth1ccIdDitHX1wIMuZ2uUHB5f9MJRCl9euyz35P5A5981pqe1sPa9TRnDo7sFH0fW1GOwi9d4cI95RylgKczgD3SUXfNEWeGt4drl5h5NIjEakSu6IokH3PHrRoo1oZFm1-rfEy5ptZaNbZfX562Io5-xSsaeIVe4P_Ww3g0O709pjwdeC9hODUcT/s3840/pexels-ogo-johnson-2005356.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3840" data-original-width="2560" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAWiBth1ccIdDitHX1wIMuZ2uUHB5f9MJRCl9euyz35P5A5981pqe1sPa9TRnDo7sFH0fW1GOwi9d4cI95RylgKczgD3SUXfNEWeGt4drl5h5NIjEakSu6IokH3PHrRoo1oZFm1-rfEy5ptZaNbZfX562Io5-xSsaeIVe4P_Ww3g0O709pjwdeC9hODUcT/w426-h640/pexels-ogo-johnson-2005356.jpg" width="426" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In this blog post, we'll talk about why settling for a mediocre connection is not on the agenda for single moms navigating the world of dating post-divorce.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-e641b5b1-7fff-2ec3-3c34-b655b9d6316d"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Prioritizing Self-Worth</b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">After going through a divorce, it's crucial to prioritize your self-worth. It does not matter how old you are you have weathered the storm of a failed marriage and emerged stronger. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Settling for a mediocre connection would undermine the value you place on yourself. As a single mom, you owe it to yourself and your children to seek out relationships that uplift and fulfill you emotionally.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Modeling Healthy Relationships</b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Children learn by example. As a single mom, you play a pivotal role in modeling healthy relationships for your kids. Settling for a mediocre connection sends the message that it's acceptable to compromise on fundamental aspects of compatibility and fulfillment. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">When you learn how to prioritize quality connections, you demonstrate to your children the importance of self-respect while maintaining standards in relationships. This does not mean to bring around someone too early on to prove something about being able to move on. Take your time. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Embracing Growth and Evolution</b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Divorce is a catalyst for personal growth and self-discovery. It offers an opportunity to reflect on past experiences. It is also a way to redefine what you want in a partner. Settling for a mediocre connection would stifle this process of growth and evolution. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Instead, embrace the journey of discovering yourself. Find out what fulfills you in a relationship. By refusing to settle, you open yourself up to the possibility of genuine connections that align with your values and aspirations.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Recognizing Red Flags</b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Settling for a mediocre connection often means turning a blind eye to red flags and warning signs. As a single mom, you have a responsibility to protect yourself and your children from potential harm or toxicity in relationships. Trust your instincts.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Don't ignore any feelings of doubt or unease. It is better to hold out for a genuine connection. Seek those genuine connections that are built on mutual respect and understanding. With time you create a safer and more nurturing environment for yourself and your family.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Valuing Time and Energy</b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Time and energy are precious, especially for single moms juggling multiple responsibilities. Settling for a mediocre connection means that you are investing time and energy into a relationship that ultimately falls short of your expectations. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">When you are selective about the connections you pursue you free up valuable resources to focus on self-care. You can blossom in personal growth while nurturing existing relationships with your children and loved ones.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Dating after divorce as a single mom comes with its own set of challenges, but settling for a mediocre connection shouldn't be one of them. Take time to learn how to prioritize your self-worth while modeling healthy relationships. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: times;">Take time to embrace growth and evolution. Recognizing red flags. Value your time and energy. Remember that you pave the way for genuine connections that enrich your life and the lives of your children. Remember, you deserve nothing less than a fulfilling and authentic relationship. Love and respect for yourself and your children will always come first and the rest will follow suit. </span></span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-45137380841775836132024-03-02T02:30:00.000-08:002024-03-02T02:30:00.135-08:00Why I Don't Count Child Support Money in My Monthly Expenses<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Living on a low income is a challenging reality for many individuals, especially those who are responsible for supporting children. Whether the child support payments are under 20 dollars or well over a hundred keeping the child support away from your monthly budget is essential. Under this type of circumstance, every penny counts, and budgeting becomes a crucial aspect of financial survival. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIE6yjm1W8QNjrm6zQQQZ1wzatUSQMp3L5uL84jBqtUb_8ag5ZTg9ugor0_itra47jAUU48zgpzqtv2hW5vJjt3tzDcSfpMa4D76D5YwBwkU6S7Nu3HpXVK-r5LEbvDZHk4MVJkgKi72P2SCX-JBo7SECAfGgmB9nM6-rX_V1bPIa3jyxP9MiESo00DD77/s6016/pexels-osmar-vasques-1982852.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6016" data-original-width="4000" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIE6yjm1W8QNjrm6zQQQZ1wzatUSQMp3L5uL84jBqtUb_8ag5ZTg9ugor0_itra47jAUU48zgpzqtv2hW5vJjt3tzDcSfpMa4D76D5YwBwkU6S7Nu3HpXVK-r5LEbvDZHk4MVJkgKi72P2SCX-JBo7SECAfGgmB9nM6-rX_V1bPIa3jyxP9MiESo00DD77/w426-h640/pexels-osmar-vasques-1982852.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">However, one might wonder why someone wouldn't include child support money in their monthly expenses. Of course, child support is meant to contribute to the well-being of the children. Here are three compelling reasons why I choose not to count child support money into my monthly expenses, and why others in similar situations might make the same decision.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-bff04c81-7fff-0c34-30a6-8a8618838e88"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Uncertainty of Payment</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The primary reason I don't count child support money in my monthly expenses is the uncertainty of payment. Unfortunately, not all non-custodial parents fulfill their financial obligations consistently. One can be looking for the money on a month where money may be tight and never receive it!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">While child support orders exist to ensure financial support for children, there's no guarantee that the payments will be made regularly or in full. Many custodial parents have experienced the frustration and financial strain of relying on child support payments that arrive late or not at all. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Depending on this money to cover essential expenses like groceries, utilities, or rent can lead to significant stress and instability when payments are erratic or non-existent.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Legal and Administrative Hurdles</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Another reason for excluding child support from monthly budget calculations is the complex and often lengthy legal and administrative processes involved. Enforcing child support orders or modifying existing agreements can be a time-consuming and emotionally draining ordeal. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Dealing with red tape to attending court hearings can be a hassle and the journey to obtain or adjust child support payments can be fraught with obstacles. During this process, relying on uncertain income to meet immediate financial needs might not be feasible or practical. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Therefore, it's sensible to base monthly budgets on reliable sources of income rather than potential child support payments that may or may not materialize consistently.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Maintaining Financial Independence</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Additionally, not counting child support money in monthly expenses can be a strategy for maintaining financial independence and resilience. While child support is intended to contribute to the costs of raising children, it's essential to develop financial habits that aren't entirely reliant on external sources of income.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">By prioritizing self-sufficiency and budgeting based on personal earnings or benefits, individuals can build a more sustainable financial framework that's less susceptible to disruptions caused by changes in child support payments or unexpected circumstances involving the non-custodial parent. This approach fosters a sense of empowerment and control over one's financial destiny, even in the face of financial challenges.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In conclusion, while child support payments are designed to support the well-being of children in separated or divorced families, relying solely on this income to cover monthly expenses can be fraught with risks and uncertainties. From the unpredictability of payment to the complexities of legal procedures. There is a certain type of importance in maintaining financial independence.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">There are several compelling reasons why individuals living on low incomes might choose not to count child support money in their monthly budgets. Instead, prioritizing reliable sources of income and developing resilient financial strategies can provide greater stability and peace of mind in navigating the challenges of raising children on limited resources.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-87093717810315984302024-03-01T00:00:00.000-08:002024-03-01T00:00:00.161-08:00 Embrace Your Independence: 3 Reasons I Love Going Out Alone<p><span style="font-family: times;">Hey there! Today, I want to chat about something that's near and dear to my heart—going out solo. Yes, you heard me right. I'm talking about stepping out into the world on your own, embracing your independence, and owning every moment of it. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwtPVMQ23PGZARjzR_8zQg-3vwNC6uNhSBKFFuTiXYVqdw90TgNnhE6f6wIVvzk3ilenXAQ4emJqEB6lP_P_eAKTfsyOxTElre1gXKU5IvQ4uvh6jRX3PYhFX8ObunmypydvfcNOfSZV-N6-nk0cvZFSBnol6DoB_WkFB5XzLgH6Vt5vAKFRm-YLuVZJK8/s5574/pexels-abel-kayode-10891770.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5574" data-original-width="4460" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwtPVMQ23PGZARjzR_8zQg-3vwNC6uNhSBKFFuTiXYVqdw90TgNnhE6f6wIVvzk3ilenXAQ4emJqEB6lP_P_eAKTfsyOxTElre1gXKU5IvQ4uvh6jRX3PYhFX8ObunmypydvfcNOfSZV-N6-nk0cvZFSBnol6DoB_WkFB5XzLgH6Vt5vAKFRm-YLuVZJK8/w512-h640/pexels-abel-kayode-10891770.jpg" width="512" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">So, grab your favorite heels, and let's dive into why going out solo is not just empowering but downright sexy.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Freedom to Explore</b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">Picture this: You're heading out on a night that’s still young the time is around 9pm. There is no one rushing you or in your business about the possibility of things going wrong. You arrive at the scene with eyes that are glued to you and your smile. Compliments are flowing just like the drinks. You see, going out alone grants you the freedom to explore without any restrictions or compromises.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">You can wander into that quaint café you've been eyeing, strike up a conversation with a stranger at the bar, or simply lose yourself in the rhythm of the night. There's something undeniably intoxicating about being the master of your own adventure. No schedules, no agendas—just you and the endless possibilities awaiting.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Unleash Your Confidence</b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">There's a certain allure in a person who can confidently navigate the world solo. When you step out alone, you're not just embracing independence; you're showcasing your self-assurance to the world. There's no need to rely on anyone else for validation or entertainment because you know that your company is more than enough. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">Walking into a room with your head held high, exuding that irresistible confidence, is the epitome of sexiness. People can't help but be drawn to someone who radiates such self-assurance and trust me, it's an absolute magnet.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Embrace Spontaneity</b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">One of the most thrilling aspects of going out alone is the spontaneity it invites into your life. Without the constraints of group dynamics or conflicting preferences, you're free to indulge in every whim and fancy that crosses your mind.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">Want to catch a late-night movie after drinks? Go for it. Feel like dancing until dawn at that underground club you stumbled upon? Why the heck not! Embracing spontaneity adds an electrifying edge to your solo adventures, keeping you on your toes and making every moment feel alive with possibility. And let's be real, there's nothing sexier than someone unafraid to seize the moment and live life to the fullest.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: times;">So, there you have it, my honey—three compelling reasons why going out alone is an absolute game-changer. It's all about embracing your independence, unleashing your confidence, and relishing in the spontaneous magic of life. So, the next time you find yourself itching for a night out, don't hesitate to fly solo. Trust me, you'll thank yourself later for the unforgettable experiences and newfound sense of empowerment. Now, go forth and conquer the world, my fierce, independent souls!</span></p><div><br /></div>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-70402534729229117182024-02-28T07:38:00.000-08:002024-03-07T07:51:57.042-08:007 Strategies for Women to Wake Up in a Better Mood, Even Without 8 Hours of Sleep<div><span style="font-family: times;">Waking up in a good mood can set the tone for your day. However, as a woman managing numerous responsibilities, getting 8 hours of sleep every night might seem like a distant dream.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6pbzEt8ZoFa6A31TpZ7PbSbi7Kp_2NSvrT2s3kvIfEWC2DqNREusDufRPNtiPIfsXGBBnlRTtGekzGvVQqKlAuyzZHqsy55YgyDdLpt-d04vVBS84Iws70hE5vhp1dMrqgndAz2WHjuaDlTWOp-9icDAcIpKiyK9of-ocfIYk6g0PeHcZgQUMbBsAKEz0/s6044/pexels-pnw-production-7576407.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6044" data-original-width="4022" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6pbzEt8ZoFa6A31TpZ7PbSbi7Kp_2NSvrT2s3kvIfEWC2DqNREusDufRPNtiPIfsXGBBnlRTtGekzGvVQqKlAuyzZHqsy55YgyDdLpt-d04vVBS84Iws70hE5vhp1dMrqgndAz2WHjuaDlTWOp-9icDAcIpKiyK9of-ocfIYk6g0PeHcZgQUMbBsAKEz0/w426-h640/pexels-pnw-production-7576407.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Whether it's due to work, family, or simply the demands of modern life, many women find themselves facing mornings feeling groggy and irritable. But fear not, there are ways to improve your morning mood even if you haven't had a perfect night's sleep.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">While getting a full 8 hours of sleep every night might not be feasible, establishing a consistent sleep schedule can still greatly improve your sleep quality. Aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This helps regulate your body's internal clock, making it easier to fall asleep and wake up feeling refreshed.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Prioritize Sleep Quality</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Focus on the quality of sleep rather than the quantity. Create a conducive sleep environment by keeping your bedroom dark, quiet, and cool. Invest in a comfortable mattress and pillows that support your body. Avoid electronic devices at least an hour before bedtime, as the blue light emitted can interfere with your body's natural sleep-wake cycle.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Practice Relaxation Techniques</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Incorporate relaxation techniques into your bedtime routine to help you unwind and prepare for sleep. This could include activities such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or gentle stretching. Find what works best for you and make it a regular part of your evening ritual.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Limit Caffeine and Alcohol Intake</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">While a cup of coffee might seem like the perfect pick-me-up in the morning, excessive caffeine intake can disrupt your sleep patterns and leave you feeling more tired in the long run. Similarly, while alcohol might help you fall asleep initially, it can disrupt your sleep cycle, leading to poor sleep quality. Limit your intake of caffeine and alcohol, especially in the hours leading up to bedtime.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Stay Hydrated</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Dehydration can contribute to feelings of fatigue and irritability, so make sure to stay hydrated throughout the day. Drink plenty of water, especially in the morning upon waking. Consider keeping a glass of water by your bedside to sip on as soon as you wake up.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Get Moving</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Engaging in some form of physical activity, even if it's just a short walk or some gentle stretching, can help wake up your body and mind. Exercise releases endorphins, which can improve your mood and energy levels. Try to incorporate movement into your morning routine to help jumpstart your day.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><b>Practice Gratitude</b></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">Starting your day with a positive mindset can change how you feel. Take a few moments each morning to reflect on what you're grateful for, whether it's your health, loved ones, or simply the opportunity to experience a new day. Practicing gratitude can help shift your perspective and set the tone for a positive day.</span> </div><div><b style="font-family: times;"><br /></b></div><div><b style="font-family: times;">Conclusion</b></div><div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: times;">While getting a full 8 hours of sleep every night might not always be possible, there are still steps you can take to wake up in a better mood as a woman juggling multiple responsibilities. By prioritizing sleep quality, establishing a consistent sleep schedule, and incorporating relaxation techniques into your bedtime routine, you can improve your sleep habits and wake up refreshed and energized each morning. Remember to be patient with yourself and experiment with different strategies until you find what works best for you.</span></div>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-32567692096399378062024-02-27T08:41:00.000-08:002024-03-07T08:06:30.526-08:00How I Paid Off My First Credit Card on a Low Income<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Managing finances as a single parent on a low income can be challenging. However, I can swear to you that it's not impossible. I know this firsthand as a single mom who recently paid off her first credit card with a $750 limit in just a few months. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdUzaMk17MMYPCRHO73ZtPN_uOkTJA48uqLU1mAfqno8iZoIhzHh7gq_ggMhe2dwjBrLz05HBZK0MV2oIW3V4kDyG7xg6XmyFs4D6e4adDTsRQFR9VT8639bryPBNM1y8YhIcO8T5IS9FOuLy87ZQcbc6IbJeBDv-8l-uIqoCgkw-VlJJlwktf7X1aIpP4/s5048/pexels-built-by-king-12008287.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5048" data-original-width="3365" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdUzaMk17MMYPCRHO73ZtPN_uOkTJA48uqLU1mAfqno8iZoIhzHh7gq_ggMhe2dwjBrLz05HBZK0MV2oIW3V4kDyG7xg6XmyFs4D6e4adDTsRQFR9VT8639bryPBNM1y8YhIcO8T5IS9FOuLy87ZQcbc6IbJeBDv-8l-uIqoCgkw-VlJJlwktf7X1aIpP4/w426-h640/pexels-built-by-king-12008287.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><p></p><p><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In this blog post, I'll share my journey and the strategies I used to achieve this financial milestone.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-92ac631f-7fff-8fc6-81c1-9e36c79b6b5b"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Setting the Stage</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As a single mom, I understand the importance of being financially responsible, especially when it comes to managing debt. When I received my first credit card with a modest limit of $750, I knew I had to tread carefully to avoid falling into the trap of accumulating debt.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Creating a Budget</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The first step I took was to create a realistic budget that accounted for all of my expenses, including rent, utilities, groceries, childcare, and other necessities. I meticulously tracked my income and expenses to ensure that every dollar was accounted for.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Cutting Expenses:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Living on a tight budget meant making sacrifices. I had to cut back on non-essential expenses such as dining out, entertainment, and impulse purchases. Instead, I prioritized spending on necessities and looked for ways to save money wherever possible, such as buying generic brands, shopping sales at local grocery stores, and paying attention to the number of times I needed an Uber or Lyft and the costs.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Increasing Income</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">While working a full-time job, I also explored opportunities to increase my income. This included taking on freelance work, increasing my reach with my blog, and participating in surveys or working with other brands to create their mission statements. Every additional dollar earned went straight towards paying off my credit card debt.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Creating a Debt Repayment Plan </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">With my budget in place and my income maximized, I devised a debt repayment plan to tackle my credit card balance. I prioritized paying more than the minimum payment each month to chip away at the principal balance faster. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I also paid more than once a month towards my credit card. I also utilized the debt snowball method, focusing on paying off the smallest balance first while making minimum payments on other debts.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Staying Motivated</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Paying off debt requires discipline and perseverance, especially when living on a low income. To stay motivated, I celebrated small victories along the way, such as reaching milestones or paying off a certain percentage of my debt. I also reminded myself of the financial freedom and peace of mind that would come with being debt-free.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Seeking Support</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Managing finances as a single parent can feel overwhelming at times. I did a lot of journaling. I also had a conversation with a personal banker about my goals for my credit this year.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Whether it was sharing money-saving tips, venting frustrations, or celebrating successes, having a support system made the journey more manageable.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Celebrating Success</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">After months of hard work and dedication, I finally made the last payment on my credit card balance. It was a moment of triumph and relief, knowing that I had overcome the challenge of paying off debt while living on a low income as a single mom.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I have decided to keep my line of credit open and continue using the card as I work towards getting a new card.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Conclusion</b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Paying off my first credit card debt of $750 on a low income as a single mom was no easy feat, but it was achievable with careful planning, budgeting, and determination. By creating a budget, cutting expenses, increasing income, and staying motivated, I can achieve financial freedom and set myself toward a brighter future. If I can do it, so can you. Remember, with perseverance and the right strategies, you can conquer your financial goals, no matter your circumstances.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-26881178014374826752024-02-25T23:30:00.000-08:002024-02-25T23:30:00.241-08:00How to Use the 50 30 20 Budgeting Strategy While Raising Kids on Low Income<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">One would probably lose their damn mind if they were dealt the lifestyle that I am living at the moment. Living on a modest income can be challenging when raising a family on your own. However, with careful planning and budgeting strategies, it's possible to not only survive but thrive on a limited budget.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTHBiwEWMf2hzdENrd1zXQnx3ZvT7qslOSrQjVSrJg_jbrzGSdZ6ccUNWSrDJWMteYWhWt2rA0Rem81RhvVUaXv7p14f8HiCvwOqLMmamz4NJT0Ma4jExdZ82NfOHNV6CFBMfr1dxN2BaXpAtH-B68E3d1uJY3qhSVi7CziEhCDVNR-dOILk59qBAMZkUv/s5760/pexels-lucas-pezeta-1848907.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5760" data-original-width="3840" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTHBiwEWMf2hzdENrd1zXQnx3ZvT7qslOSrQjVSrJg_jbrzGSdZ6ccUNWSrDJWMteYWhWt2rA0Rem81RhvVUaXv7p14f8HiCvwOqLMmamz4NJT0Ma4jExdZ82NfOHNV6CFBMfr1dxN2BaXpAtH-B68E3d1uJY3qhSVi7CziEhCDVNR-dOILk59qBAMZkUv/w426-h640/pexels-lucas-pezeta-1848907.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span><p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In this blog post, we'll explore how the 50-30-20 budgeting method can empower families earning $15 an hour with two kids to manage their finances effectively and achieve their financial goals.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-68adea1b-7fff-a186-77b6-4acf6560f01d"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Understanding the 50 30 20 Method</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The 50-30-20 budgeting method is a simple yet effective way to allocate your income toward different categories:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">50% for Needs:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> This includes essential expenses such as housing, utilities, groceries, transportation, and healthcare.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">30% for Wants:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> This category covers discretionary spending like dining out, entertainment, hobbies, and non-essential purchases.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">20% for Savings and Debt Repayment: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This portion of your income should go towards building savings, paying off debt, and investing in your future financial stability.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Now, let's delve into how this budgeting method can be applied practically to a family earning $15 an hour with two kids. This is what works for me as well. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Managing Essential Expenses (50%):</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The key to successfully managing essential expenses is prioritizing needs over wants and finding ways to reduce costs without compromising on quality of life. Here's how you can break down this portion of your budget:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Housing: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Aim to spend no more than 30% of your income on housing expenses, including rent or mortgage payments, property taxes, insurance, and maintenance.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Utilities:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Look for ways to conserve energy and water to lower utility bills. Consider switching to energy-efficient appliances and LED light bulbs.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Groceries:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Plan meals. Planning meals is going to help you stick to this budget when you create a grocery list. Sticking the grocery list is vital and it helps to avoid impulse purchases. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Take advantage of digital coupons, discounts, and loyalty programs to save on groceries.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Transportation:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Explore alternatives to owning a car, such as using public transportation, carpooling, biking, or walking whenever possible. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I use Uber and Lyft. I do not have a car at this time. I create a budget for my traveling expenses with and without my kids. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Healthcare: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Take advantage of employer-sponsored health insurance if available. Consider setting up a Health Savings Account (HSA) to save for medical expenses tax-free.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Allocating for Discretionary Spending (30%)</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">While it's you may want to dive head first into swiping your credit card and indulge in occasional luxuries, it's equally crucial to prioritize your spending and avoid overspending on non-essential items. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><u>Here are some tips for managing discretionary expenses:</u></i></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Dining Out:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Limit dining out to special occasions and opt for homemade meals to save money. (Pinterest has plenty of breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner options to work within your grocery budget and list).</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Entertainment: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Look for free or low-cost entertainment options such as parks, city or local family fun events, libraries, and even play dates.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Hobbies: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Pursue hobbies that are affordable or even generate additional income, such as gardening, crafting, or freelance work.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Non-essential Purchases:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Before making a purchase, ask yourself if it's something you truly need or if it can wait. Avoid impulse buying and practice mindful spending.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Building Savings and Paying Off Debt (20%):</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Even with a modest income, it's crucial to prioritize savings and debt repayment to secure your financial future. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Here's how you can allocate 20% of your income towards savings and debt repayment:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Emergency Fund: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Aim to build an emergency fund equivalent to three to six months' worth of living expenses to cover unexpected financial setbacks.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Debt Repayment: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Focus on paying off high-interest debt such as credit cards and personal loans as quickly as possible. Consider using the debt snowball or debt avalanche method to accelerate repayment.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Retirement Savings:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> Contribute to employer-sponsored retirement plans such as 401(k) or open an Individual Retirement Account (IRA) to save for retirement.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Conclusion</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Living on $15 an hour with two kids may seem daunting. However, with careful budgeting and discipline, it's entirely possible to achieve financial stability and even work towards your long-term goals. I am starting with very little while rebuilding after a divorce in a new city with no family here to help. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Some days I feel as if I am losing my sanity, but not my common sense to continue to strive for a better life. I also am not able to get back on EBT, so I am creating dinners from my paycheck. By following the 50-30-20 budgeting method and making smart financial decisions, you can provide for your family's needs, enjoy some of life's pleasures, and build a secure financial future for yourself and your loved ones. Remember, it's not about how much you earn but how effectively you manage what you have.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-79654911034675301682024-02-25T06:50:00.000-08:002024-02-25T06:50:42.853-08:00How To Upgrade Your Presence As a Woman In Her 30s<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">People say that a whole lot changes when you get in your 30s. Making it to 30 alone is a significant milestone in life. It's a time when you've likely gained confidence, clarity, and a deeper understanding of yourself. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUA6wF209pHDNNy74VY99EKR8vVlrQ8iYZv7OJfoYnTevfe5clgx7AYYYQLuba2zBoD8pkzykiop-OF1SLgtTjtJkkEEN5E9v_O_UcX3tx4xqOSn5-jjcZDF7WFUfq9kPH0w3xRfzu2qHsHQLEPT_CyBagJZQzMaMbM_kFWjgM76NIitoCu9R9S2gSPqCE/s6000/pexels-bia-sousa-1974810.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6000" data-original-width="4000" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUA6wF209pHDNNy74VY99EKR8vVlrQ8iYZv7OJfoYnTevfe5clgx7AYYYQLuba2zBoD8pkzykiop-OF1SLgtTjtJkkEEN5E9v_O_UcX3tx4xqOSn5-jjcZDF7WFUfq9kPH0w3xRfzu2qHsHQLEPT_CyBagJZQzMaMbM_kFWjgM76NIitoCu9R9S2gSPqCE/w426-h640/pexels-bia-sousa-1974810.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Look, if you haven’t yet, that’s alright many of us are still trying to figure out ourselves and life. As you continue to evolve, it's natural to want to upgrade various aspects of your life, including your presence.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Your presence is more than just your physical appearance; it encompasses how you carry yourself, communicate, and engage with the world around you. Here are some tips to help women in their 30s enhance their presence and make a lasting impression.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-b559137a-7fff-eba3-c555-ca24ad2b1700"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Embrace Self-Confidence</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Self-confidence is key to upgrading your presence. As you navigate your 30s, embrace your strengths, talents, and unique qualities. Take pride in your purpose to live life and learn from your failures. Confidence radiates from within. The way you exert your confidence significantly impacts how others perceive you. Practice positive self-talk, set realistic goals, and celebrate your successes along the way.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Cultivate Personal Style </i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Your personal style is a reflection of your personality and individuality. Take the time to explore your personal style and develop it. What colors, and silhouettes resonate with you? Invest in timeless pieces that make you feel empowered and confident.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Whether it's a well-tailored blazer, a classic pair of heels, or statement accessories, find what works for you and own it. Remember, confidence is the best accessory you can wear and it is priceless!</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Prioritize Self-Care</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Self-care is essential for maintaining a healthy mind, body, and spirit. Make self-care a priority by carving out time for activities that nourish your well-being. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Whether it's getting out for a brisk walk, going for a run, indulging in a spa day, or simply enjoying a quiet moment with a book, find what rejuvenates you. When you prioritize self-care, you'll feel more balanced, energized, and ready to tackle whatever life throws your way.</span></p><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Enhance Communication Skills </i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Effective communication is fundamental to making a lasting impression. Focus on improving both verbal and non-verbal communication skills. Practice active listening. When you speak with clarity and confidence. Be mindful of how you speak to yourself, and be mindful of your body language. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Pay attention to your tone of voice, facial expressions, and gestures, as they can convey more than your words alone. Effective communication helps you command attention in any situation.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Continue Learning and Growing</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Learning should be a lifelong journey, and your 30s are no exception. Invest in personal and professional development opportunities that challenge you to grow and evolve. Look into enrolling in a course, attending workshops, or seeking mentorship, to continue to expand your knowledge and skills. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Embrace new experiences. Step out of your comfort zone. Embrace the process of continual learning. When you invest in yourself you'll not only upgrade your presence but also unlock new opportunities for personal and professional success.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Conclusion</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As you navigate your 30s, remember that upgrading your presence is a journey of self-discovery and self-expression. Embrace who you are. Blossom within your confidence. Prioritize self-care. Develop your communication skills. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">You owe it to yourself to never stop learning and growing. By incorporating these tips into your life, you'll not only enhance your presence but also inspire others to do the same. I encourage you today to step into your power! Embrace your authenticity. Allow your presence to shine brightly for the world to see.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-12012473060619515692024-02-14T18:00:00.000-08:002024-02-14T18:00:00.149-08:00I Am Alone on Valentine's Day <p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I am alone but not lonely on the night of Valentine's Day. This is the day of love, romance, and affection, so folks say. As I sit here on my couch, wine in hand, I can't help but reflect on the journey that led me to this moment of solitude. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb6IfMWdfwkFMDyxTUio3NWJqjVVtQ8rPyT1ydtrXayQfyRuVAQc4ZYjYVWvVx80KNiFrqIuNRGGzZk8Cte6b3xq7tVe702vPBNY566QrLLnPqEMgEBPXeCmVHpLNSxJE0dEvUjavKF_LDgb63rvlaoO7MLEugPVwkVqvcyd4zrUeuQRjz9pbcSGtnFD8L/s4573/pexels-marcela-oliveira-6448749.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4573" data-original-width="3049" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb6IfMWdfwkFMDyxTUio3NWJqjVVtQ8rPyT1ydtrXayQfyRuVAQc4ZYjYVWvVx80KNiFrqIuNRGGzZk8Cte6b3xq7tVe702vPBNY566QrLLnPqEMgEBPXeCmVHpLNSxJE0dEvUjavKF_LDgb63rvlaoO7MLEugPVwkVqvcyd4zrUeuQRjz9pbcSGtnFD8L/w426-h640/pexels-marcela-oliveira-6448749.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">My kids are asleep. While society may portray this day as a celebration of togetherness, for many, it serves as a reminder of the complexities of modern dating and the elusive search for genuine connection.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-591c2ad8-7fff-cd4f-6885-ba2e339f1f59"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In a world where swiping right has become the norm and instant gratification often takes precedence over meaningful relationships, it's easy to feel disheartened by the dating scene. As someone who values authenticity and consistency, I've found myself navigating through a sea of fleeting encounters and shallow connections, each one leaving me more disillusioned than the last. I damn sure do not want to be loving on Mr. Wrong. I am patiently waiting for Mr. Right On Time.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This Valentine's Day, I find myself alone, not by choice, but by circumstance. Every guy I was talking to seemed to conveniently distance himself as the day drew nearer, perhaps in an attempt to avoid the pressure of purchasing a gift or making any commitments. It's a familiar pattern—one that speaks volumes about the superficiality of modern romance and the reluctance to invest in something real.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">But there is no need to feel disappointment and frustration, I've come to realize that being alone on Valentine's Day is not a reflection of my worth or desirability. Instead, it's an opportunity to prioritize self-love and introspection, to cherish my own company, and to nurture the relationship I have with myself.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Sipping wine from my couch in my apartment may not be the conventional way to spend Valentine's Day, but it's a choice I've made consciously and confidently. I refuse to settle for half-hearted connections and lukewarm efforts. I deserve more than sporadic attention and temporary companionship.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, as many people are enjoying their gift of roses, chocolates, and romantic gestures, I'll be here, embracing my solitude and reveling in the freedom it brings. I'll treat myself to a decadent meal, indulge in my favorite book or movie, and wrap myself tight in my throw blanket.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">To anyone else who finds themselves alone this Valentine's Day, remember this: your worth is not determined by your relationship status. You are complete and whole just as you are. You are deserving of love and respect in all its forms. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, here's to a day of self-celebration, of honoring our hearts and choosing ourselves, over and over again. Happy Valentine's Day, to me, and to all the beautiful souls who refuse to settle for anything less than they deserve.</span></p></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-74209920388643976872024-02-13T07:04:00.000-08:002024-02-13T07:04:20.048-08:00The Exhausting Journey of Vulnerability in Dating After Divorce<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">When I see the first red flag while dating after divorce; I am running! See ya later. I know; it may seem like a bad thing to do. I have found that having a conversation about what I may label a red flag leads to more misunderstanding or passive-aggressive behavior from the other person from addressing the situation. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxsVV3TjW-iAPROnTqv28i_5OrxGSblWsNWJwzPLHPivVHb31000S6moORHqXgLoqbezZDX_UNAc5L3QEAIiqHAdB6XigboKGJGREVn52Ga7MPeN2IZXl-ooM1QfXzAsPt8JBLqAyQwwWnDP7yCnzirlvq9-qSisb6Bp01hr2GkfdBarAabsiIQZueaHbZ/s5863/pexels-luiz-fernando-6144345.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5863" data-original-width="3909" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxsVV3TjW-iAPROnTqv28i_5OrxGSblWsNWJwzPLHPivVHb31000S6moORHqXgLoqbezZDX_UNAc5L3QEAIiqHAdB6XigboKGJGREVn52Ga7MPeN2IZXl-ooM1QfXzAsPt8JBLqAyQwwWnDP7yCnzirlvq9-qSisb6Bp01hr2GkfdBarAabsiIQZueaHbZ/w426-h640/pexels-luiz-fernando-6144345.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Dating after divorce can feel like navigating through a coldness of emotions, uncertainties, and vulnerabilities. For many, the process is not just about finding a new partner, but also about rediscovering oneself and learning to trust again. Yet, during the hopes and fears, there often lurks a weariness, the uncomfortableness of being willing to conversate from the repeated exposure of one's vulnerabilities in the quest to connect with another soul.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-11de6e53-7fff-226d-38e9-9b1ad9197191"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As someone who has walked this path, I understand the profound exhaustion that can accompany the vulnerability of dating after divorce. The willingness to open up, to share one's past, fears, and dreams, can feel like you are being openly exposed to a stranger. And after the pain of divorce, the idea of exposing oneself to potential hurt again can be daunting.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">But does this exhaustion make us cold-hearted? Does it mean that the scars from being emotionally wounded from a divorce have rendered us incapable of love or empathy? Not necessarily. Instead, it may simply be a natural response to self-protection—a subconscious mechanism to shield ourselves from further pain.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Divorce can leave deep emotional wounds that take time to heal. It's not just the end of a marriage but the unraveling of shared dreams, routines, and identities. In its aftermath, we may find ourselves rebuilding our lives from the ground up, questioning our worth, and having lingering thoughts with feelings of betrayal and abandonment. In such a fragile state, exposing ourselves to the vulnerability of love again can feel overwhelming.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Moreover, the dating landscape itself has evolved with technology. Dating now provides many options and fosters a culture of disposability and superficiality. The pressure to present ourselves as positively as possible and to curate the perfect online profile can display our feelings of vulnerability and inadequacy. It's easy to become disillusioned and question whether genuine connection is possible in a world of swipes and likes.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, what can we do when we may be weary of vulnerability in dating? Firstly, it's essential to acknowledge and honor our feelings. It's okay to feel tired, to take a step back and prioritize self-care. Building emotional resilience takes time. Space and grace must heal.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Secondly, it's important to set healthy boundaries. While vulnerability is an essential component of intimacy, it's important to protect ourselves from potential harm. Trust should be earned gradually. We have the right to guard our hearts until we feel comfortable opening them fully.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Lastly, it's essential to cultivate self-compassion. Divorce can leave us feeling broken. Some may feel unworthy of love. Remember, we are not defined by our past experiences. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">We are worthy of love and capable of giving and receiving it in abundance. By practicing self-love and acceptance, we can begin to thaw the coldness that may have settled in our hearts, allowing warmth and vulnerability to flow freely once more.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>In conclusion, </i>the exhaustion of vulnerability in dating after divorce is a natural response to the complex emotions and experiences we've endured. It doesn't make us cold-hearted; it's a sign of strength and self-awareness. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">When we honor our feelings, set boundaries, and cultivate self-compassion, we can navigate dating better. And who knows? Along the way, we may find the love and connection we've been searching for.</span></p></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-43882624368084966682024-02-08T22:00:00.000-08:002024-02-08T22:00:00.141-08:005 Sensual Reasons Why Being Single for Valentine's Day Is Okay<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Valentine's Day does not have to be a day of eye rolls and sadness. We know it to be the holiday of love, passion, and romance. Of course, there will be people indulging in romantic gestures.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRE_Hkn3vEoJA_f7mdeEnQUQUwBcL-4Yngh0vrrTPeJaQVjmuF89Xx0R7PfxkM8AoSdp6FCn-8IMaX3MKL-COB2msH6o3WuQQGYGL0GM-MhJAT9QQKa4QN_L20h6eBA4x3gD0_X7uq30BN32iKNoSx4QVGix5-1SyIAomR_dU9oUujNl0QC_Qc1fVs8Jey/s6000/pexels-greta-hoffman-7676006.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6000" data-original-width="4000" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRE_Hkn3vEoJA_f7mdeEnQUQUwBcL-4Yngh0vrrTPeJaQVjmuF89Xx0R7PfxkM8AoSdp6FCn-8IMaX3MKL-COB2msH6o3WuQQGYGL0GM-MhJAT9QQKa4QN_L20h6eBA4x3gD0_X7uq30BN32iKNoSx4QVGix5-1SyIAomR_dU9oUujNl0QC_Qc1fVs8Jey/w426-h640/pexels-greta-hoffman-7676006.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">However, being single on Valentine's Day can be downright liberating and sensual. Here are five compelling reasons why:</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-ed18e728-7fff-7737-ee6a-1761f2b5f1f5"><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Self-love is the Ultimate Romance</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">While Valentine's Day is often associated with expressing love for others, why not take this opportunity to lavish yourself with affection? <i>Yes, you, because who knows you better than yourself? </i>Being single allows you to prioritize self-love and self-care. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Treat yourself to a luxurious bubble bath, indulge in your favorite dessert, or simply spend some time that evening or night doing what you enjoy. Embrace the sensuality of pampering yourself. Dwell in the knowledge that you are deserving of love, especially from yourself.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Freedom to Explore Your Desires</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Without the constraints of a romantic partner, you have the freedom to explore your desires and fantasies. Whether it's trying out a new hobby, taking a solo adventure, or indulging in some guilty pleasures, being single opens up a world of possibilities. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Use this Valentine's Day to connect with your innermost desires and embrace the sensual pleasures that come with self-discovery.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Embracing Independence</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">There's a certain allure in the independence that comes with being single. Instead of relying on someone else for validation or companionship, embrace the freedom of doing your thing. Use Valentine's Day as a reminder that you are whole and complete on your own. Celebrate your independence by indulging in activities that empower you and ignite your passion for life.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Deepening Connections with Friends and Family</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Valentine's Day doesn't have to be exclusively about romantic love. Take this opportunity to strengthen your connections with friends and family. If you are not a loner like I can feel at times physically reach out to those who hold a special place in your heart. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Host a chill dinner party, plan a movie night, or simply spend quality time with loved ones. Surrounding yourself with the warmth and affection of those who care about you can be just as fulfilling, if not more, than a romantic relationship.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Embracing the Present Moment</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Being single on Valentine's Day allows you to fully embrace the present moment without the distractions or expectations that come with being in a relationship. Take this opportunity to practice mindfulness and gratitude. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Savor the little pleasures in life—the taste of your favorite meal, the warmth of the sun on your skin, the beauty of a sunset. By living in the moment, you'll discover a deeper sense of fulfillment and contentment.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In conclusion, being single on Valentine's Day is not a bad thing at all. Look at it as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and sensual indulgence. Embrace your solitude with open arms and celebrate the beauty of being whole and complete on your own. Remember, true love begins within yourself. Happy Valentine's Day, to you, the most deserving of all.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So, this February 14th, whether you're catching the rhythm of a beat by dancing or enjoying the company of friends, embrace the sensuality of who you are. After all, the most profound love story you'll ever experience is the one you have with yourself.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-76636186233775136172024-02-06T08:21:00.000-08:002024-02-06T10:21:57.648-08:00Three Ways Women Can Revel in Their Sex Appeal Over 30<div style="text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3648" data-original-width="4662" height="500" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0cBg-sL4QzTRvCEJ94P1j5b3-ShHwelAOQ2oezt4WkfAEA3LG2-_jt66HiF_X2O1trgiRBVKG5HURfxclHciIpnx5ubvsFxAQ_wfsn6GYx5n0nPqc0yygGXB_QkIpybYwPDmw4hE3nRUzVOBOljxyuNWJKBnz49ydFd28GKXPkd3vhL2aQA712dGOIvYu/w640-h500/pexels-keamogetswe-molotsane-10915037.jpg" width="640" /></div><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Chin up and shoulders high. Did you know that when many women gracefully step into their 30s, they embark on self-discovery, confidence, and empowerment? </span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-726b9ebe-7fff-2501-5983-695e8b1aa984"><span></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Embracing one's sex appeal is not limited to age. It only becomes more enduring with time. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Here, we explore three sensual and inviting ways for women to celebrate and cultivate their inherent allure beyond the milestone of 30.</span></p><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Cultivate Confidence Through Self-Discovery</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Confidence is undeniably one of the most alluring qualities a woman can possess. As you enter your 30s, take the time to discover and appreciate the unique facets of your personality and body. Embrace your curves. Appreciate your strengths. Cherish the wisdom that comes with age.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Engaging in activities that make you feel confident and powerful can add excitement to your life. Whether mastering a new skill, pursuing a hobby, or spending time in self-reflection, confidence comes from within and is a magnetic force that draws others to you. As you exude self-assurance, your sex appeal will naturally blossom.</span></p><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Embrace Sensuality in Style</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Did you know that your style is an extension of your identity? Your style is also a canvas on which you can express your sensuality. Getting into your 30s is a time to, refine your wardrobe and to reflect the confident and alluring woman you've become. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Of course, investing in timeless pieces can come at a cost. Don’t be alarmed by some complimentary jewelry that fits; a simple watch, necklace, or bracelet can add a little sparkle. You can also wear clothing that celebrates your figure, accentuate your best features, and makes you feel irresistible.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Experiment with textures, fabrics, and colors that make you feel sensual and inviting. A well-fitted dress that hugs your curves, shapewear to snatch you up, or lingerie that makes you feel desirable can all contribute to a heightened sense of sex appeal. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Remember, it's not about following trends but embracing a style that represents you.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Nurture Inner and Outer Well-being</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">True sex appeal radiates from a woman who prioritizes her overall well-being. In your 30s, focus on maintaining a healthy balance between physical, mental, and emotional wellness. Regular exercise keeps you physically fit, boosts confidence, and enhances your mood.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Prioritize self-care practices that pamper and rejuvenate your body, such as indulging in a relaxing bath, getting a massage, or practicing mindfulness. When you feel good on the inside you can radiate all your happiness and confidence with grace.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As a woman enters her 30s, her sex appeal becomes a symphony of self-assurance, style, and well-being. Embrace the journey of self-discovery, confidently express your sensuality through style, and prioritize your overall well-being. The allure of a woman over 30 is timeless, and by embracing and celebrating your unique qualities, you invite the world to revel in the captivating essence that is uniquely yours.</span></p></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-37315114225244141832024-02-01T07:47:00.000-08:002024-02-01T07:47:51.988-08:00Three Important Lessons from January 2024<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As we bid farewell to the first month of 2024, I have reflected on the valuable lessons that January has brought into my life. Not only did I have a birthday, but I also chose to distance myself and energy this year to mentally and emotionally grow. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcXFN3QTpTuqYYfOR_7e26AVv4Bs-_GixIcdpdjN21zAzG7V0qxJlLX0gYtSooJuMdsF9v4Mr0_8QywHwYncQ_eWkOrE2wei43VToXiCcX5ecTNaIs7FZoZBkg9QzuBKhgwPWfvbo1FmT7xvUzvbiOH1RZuJjXCc1AMTxi-A0zK3uuVHrroQh1q70nhanF/s2208/IMG_3864.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2208" data-original-width="1242" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcXFN3QTpTuqYYfOR_7e26AVv4Bs-_GixIcdpdjN21zAzG7V0qxJlLX0gYtSooJuMdsF9v4Mr0_8QywHwYncQ_eWkOrE2wei43VToXiCcX5ecTNaIs7FZoZBkg9QzuBKhgwPWfvbo1FmT7xvUzvbiOH1RZuJjXCc1AMTxi-A0zK3uuVHrroQh1q70nhanF/w360-h640/IMG_3864.jpeg" width="360" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This year has begun the halfway mark of my life post-divorce. January was a month that demanded my attention. I was watchful of energies that were disturbing me and my period of self-discovery and growth, with three key insights standing out prominently. In this blog post, I share the lessons that revolve around detachment, skepticism, and the importance of protecting one's peace of mind.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-8a764ad0-7fff-7d6e-1c63-273a8bb5ed4d"><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Detachment from the Unnecessary</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">January 2024 taught me the art of detachment – letting go of family ties, friendships, and situations that no longer served a purpose in my life. One thing that I knew I was not going to be coming into this year was codependent on any relationship within my life. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I prefer to have a mystery about the life I live off the internet. I am thankful for the friendships; that I have with women who value my urge to break away and disappear while I get myself together. I do not ever want to be the friend who is seeking out a therapy session through my friendship every time we chat. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It is mentally and emotionally exhausting at times to feel vulnerable. I have accepted that I am 31 and that I am still figuring out life on my own. That’s okay. I embrace the growing pains, but I am damn sure not sulking in the bed because of it.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This newfound awareness encouraged me to evaluate my relationships and surroundings critically. I realized that holding onto things that bring negativity or contribute nothing positive to my well-being only hinders personal growth. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Detachment is not a sign of weakness; instead, it is an acknowledgment of self-worth and the understanding that one deserves to be surrounded by positivity and support.</span></p><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>No Longer Giving the Benefit of the Doubt</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Another significant lesson I learned this January was the importance of skepticism in relationships. While giving people the benefit of the doubt is often seen as a virtue, I realized that it can sometimes lead to disappointment and heartache. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Trust should be earned; in all ways and always. </i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The blind faith that one can embody can leave them vulnerable to those who may not have our best interests at heart. This realization has prompted me to approach relationships with a healthy dose of skepticism, encouraging me to set boundaries and discern who I let into my life. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Protective of Peace of Mind</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Amidst the chaos of life, I discovered just how protective I am of my peace of mind. Post-divorce, cultivating a life filled with positivity and tranquility became a priority. January emphasized the significance of guarding my mental and emotional well-being fiercely. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Whether saying no to toxic relationships, avoiding unnecessary drama, or practicing self-care, I've come to understand that peace of mind is a precious commodity that requires conscious effort to maintain.</i> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This newfound protectiveness has become a cornerstone in shaping the life I am actively building for myself.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">January 2024 has been a month of self-reflection and personal growth. It was a month marked by the lessons of detachment, skepticism, and protecting my peace of mind. As I navigate the journey of post-divorce life, these insights have become guiding principles, helping me create a space that fosters growth, positivity, and personal well-being. Embracing change and learning from life's lessons has allowed me to step into February with newfound strength and resilience.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-33761057591549945202024-01-30T06:00:00.000-08:002024-01-30T06:00:00.243-08:00Guess Who Is Now 31?<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">A wise woman told me I would never get to where I am going if I kept second-guessing my next step. Today without hesitation I find myself at the intersection of gratitude and self-discovery. This day marks the beginning of my 31st year on this breathtaking journey called life.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSpLLxBy_hXkA6FfiV4ZiC0KBD272sGIAWoJRHlWkovkXAcg4b0SAbQ737LGyrzGRB6lEkD1lop4g8TUrZhmbjwp-wHRoie9NSzznQAQU3AdQy1Sk29rGa872ZxxEZiDT8rb2Qv39V2CGAlYQEPE40kyj6qlBN34H4i1nyySxRq3Bi4KYA9Inoc26Sktia/s5192/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6405812.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5192" data-original-width="3466" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSpLLxBy_hXkA6FfiV4ZiC0KBD272sGIAWoJRHlWkovkXAcg4b0SAbQ737LGyrzGRB6lEkD1lop4g8TUrZhmbjwp-wHRoie9NSzznQAQU3AdQy1Sk29rGa872ZxxEZiDT8rb2Qv39V2CGAlYQEPE40kyj6qlBN34H4i1nyySxRq3Bi4KYA9Inoc26Sktia/w428-h640/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6405812.jpg" width="428" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I have thugged out many rough days and nights to get to this age. I reflect on the past and look forward to the future without remorse. I am overwhelmed with a sense of gratitude and blessedness.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-1d48b574-7fff-440d-2d9b-8e668798eefc"><b><br /></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><b>Gratitude and Blessings:</b></i></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Milestones are placeholders that align with birthdays which makes it a great time to pause and reflect. Today, as I celebrate my 31st birthday, I am filled with gratitude for the experiences, challenges, and triumphs that have shaped me into the person I am today. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I thank God for the gift of life. I did not ever think I would be in the position that I am in mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually today. After all, being through it almost made me a cold-hearted soul. The breath in my lungs has been punched out of me by the many plot twists and turns to get here to 31. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I have not lost many people along this journey because I do not open myself up to allow others to end. I have become a great judge of character and when I feel that it’s time for me to let go I do just that. Explaining my way to people who are bound to misunderstand me or question my better judgment has given me a more aloof spirit. God’s grace has been so sufficient; even on the days I am overwhelmed and feel drained. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This year, I am particularly aware of the blessings that surround me. From the simplest joys to the profound moments, each day is a gift, and I am determined to cherish and make the most of every moment. Gratitude, after all, is not just a fleeting emotion but a mindset that transforms the ordinary into the extraordinary.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><b>Embracing Independence and Happiness:</b></i></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">At 31, I am embracing my happiness and independence with open arms. This year is about reclaiming my sense of self, understanding my worth, and pursuing the things that bring me joy. The journey towards self-discovery will make me more conscious. I am ready to explore the depths of my being.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Spending Today in Peace:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">To celebrate this special day, I have chosen to spend it in peace. I have been asked why will you be alone Linda? It’s a simple answer. I rather not have any surfacing expectations for anyone aiming to add to my happiness today. I am surrounded by the tranquility of solitude. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I took the day off from work and both of my kids are at school. I also have a few things to handle before taking myself on a lunch date. My make-up is looking nice. My outfit is comfortable and fitting for the occasion, and my hair is sexy and flirty with wand curls. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In a world that often moves at a rapid pace, taking a day to simply spend alone is a gift in itself. My phone is on Do Not Disturb, allowing me to disconnect from the outside world's noise and connect with the serenity within.</span></p><b><i><br /></i></b><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Welcoming Abundance and Lessons</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As I step into this new chapter, I am ready for the abundance, blessings, and lessons that await me. Life is a constant teacher, and with each passing year, I embrace the opportunity to learn, grow, and evolve. I approach the challenges with an open mind. I am not a captive of fear of the unknown because I know that they are stepping stones towards a brighter future.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Mysterious, Sexy, Confident, and Myself</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Today is about embracing the various facets of my personality – the mysterious, the sexy, the confident, and, above all, being authentically myself. This birthday, I choose to revel in the uniqueness that sets me apart and makes me who I am. It's a celebration of self-love and acceptance.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As the day unfolds, I am reminded that birthdays are a celebration of life. Today, I stand at the threshold of a new chapter, ready to embrace the opportunities, challenges, and joys that come my way. With a heart full of gratitude and a spirit eager for self-discovery, I step into the 31st year of my life with anticipation, excitement, and a renewed sense of purpose. Here's to the journey ahead, and may it be as enthralling as the person I am becoming.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-15482271454403092812024-01-22T07:57:00.000-08:002024-01-22T07:57:18.237-08:00The Last Week of Being 30<p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;">As I eagerly approach the milestone of turning 31 in just one week, I am reflecting on the incredible journey of the past year. It's not just about thinking about blowing out candles on a cake on my birthday. I am thankful for all the victories, lessons, and self-discovery that have come with embracing a new age. This is not just a birthday that’s on the way; it's a celebration of independence, resilience, and the power of embracing life on my terms.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinBq6qbuy-VPA31LUPBqRlO_fyQiBRoAymiTZ5TvO7Q1SqafcHmvHAyBZ6OyWgF98_4QhOAXrDsYo0eENBx75Q-mXpVZRLQWq-UvKLQisrHRFRIYlJLywysBON_GNflGZa9ptFDh7Prukr-Z46osGd_XurVVonJFYb_qyrrRn54Cy1L_GSTjrfRxvfa035/s2208/IMG_3655.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2208" data-original-width="1242" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinBq6qbuy-VPA31LUPBqRlO_fyQiBRoAymiTZ5TvO7Q1SqafcHmvHAyBZ6OyWgF98_4QhOAXrDsYo0eENBx75Q-mXpVZRLQWq-UvKLQisrHRFRIYlJLywysBON_GNflGZa9ptFDh7Prukr-Z46osGd_XurVVonJFYb_qyrrRn54Cy1L_GSTjrfRxvfa035/w360-h640/IMG_3655.jpeg" width="360" /></a></div><br /><p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span><span id="docs-internal-guid-20ff4018-7fff-1815-2254-916f39faf7db"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">At 30, I stood at a crossroads. I was newly divorced and ready to redefine what life meant to me. Little did I know that the year ahead would become a testament to my strength, resilience, and ability to thrive independently. If someone had looked me in my eyes and told me that I would have accomplished moving out of my friend’s home with only two paychecks stacked up; I would have said,<i> “Stop playing. Be for real!” Oh and insert a laugh too. *wink wink*</i></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">One of my most significant accomplishments was stepping into remote work after four years of unemployment. It took me a year to find employment on my own after being denied serval times. I had no car, but it did not hold me back from still having the burning desire to get a place to stay. Moving to Baton Rouge with no family here to help me if something had happened was frightening. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">I am not the type of woman who wants to thrive in the codependency of other adults to keep me afloat. I knew that working from home was the best option for me to put my skills into action and make an honest living to provide for myself and my kids. There were of course people that even doubted that I was looking for a job! It was amusing. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">People will always have a perception of you. It also has nothing to do with you. I was not a slave to comfortability because I had goals that I knew were attainable. I continued to smile and keep my business to myself. The sense of empowerment that came with taking charge of my professional life was exhilarating.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In the process, I discovered the importance of growing closer to my spirituality. As I embraced my faith, I found a source of strength that went beyond the challenges of my life. This connection with God became a guiding light, providing comfort and purpose as I navigated the complexities of life as a newly independent woman.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Living in my truth became a mantra, a commitment to authenticity that transformed every aspect of my life. Testing the waters of dating, I learned to be true to myself, unapologetically embracing who I am and what I want. It wasn't just about finding someone to share my life with. I do. However, it was also about understanding and loving myself in the process.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Self-love became a priority, manifesting in the little acts of kindness I showed myself. I took myself out on personal dates, exploring the purple and gold stamped city I now called home. In these moments of solitude, I discovered the joy of my own company and the beauty of self-reliance. Each adventure became a celebration of my journey, a testament to my ability to find happiness within.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Turning 31 is not just about growing older. It is about becoming wiser, stronger, and more in tune with the person I am destined to be. As I stand on the brink of another year of life, I am excited for the possibilities on the way. Life won’t also go as expected. This is why I live with no expectations. I have learned to see the beauty that lies in the unexpected, the lessons learned, and the person we become in the process.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So here's to 31 – a year of independence, growth, and self-discovery. May it be filled with joy, challenges that make me stronger, and a continued journey of embracing life on my terms. I am ready to make a toast to another year of becoming the best version of myself.</span></p><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div></span>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-63592428665179641512024-01-16T22:00:00.000-08:002024-01-16T22:00:00.140-08:00The Power of Keeping a Mystery as a Woman<span id="docs-internal-guid-32118fe9-7fff-0dbe-20e5-e700104e6e41"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">It just is not other people’s business and that is fine. When it comes to maintaining an air of mystery around oneself it can be a powerful and empowering choice. For women, who have historically been subjected to societal expectations and judgments, preserving an element of enigma can be a liberating act of self-expression. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqZ4O4E-Dp-UrXVHkAQYOkp6TsjdWSaUe8V9FvG0mDB75sUtG7S74SL_nNV2SSwQOPYogMs9KvRx1QVgcU0s8XdIuusv0VUeIpD5b9PBHEOjvxoTTqRUh9UxBM7JOHVjVNbiPEk00IFzrVqgIqx0E3twUp9bZEkFhaeytYy8BrwSMpSLRJcecHUjU0JblA/s3456/pexels-wilson-vitorino-2380119.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3456" data-original-width="2304" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqZ4O4E-Dp-UrXVHkAQYOkp6TsjdWSaUe8V9FvG0mDB75sUtG7S74SL_nNV2SSwQOPYogMs9KvRx1QVgcU0s8XdIuusv0VUeIpD5b9PBHEOjvxoTTqRUh9UxBM7JOHVjVNbiPEk00IFzrVqgIqx0E3twUp9bZEkFhaeytYy8BrwSMpSLRJcecHUjU0JblA/w426-h640/pexels-wilson-vitorino-2380119.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In this blog post, we'll explore the reasons behind keeping a mystery about oneself as a woman and how it can contribute to personal growth, empowerment, and the reshaping of societal norms.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Defying Stereotypes</i></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Stereotypes often dictate how women should behave, dress, and express themselves. Embracing a sense of mystery challenges these preconceived notions, allowing women to break free from the limitations society may try to impose. By defying stereotypes, women can assert their independence and assertiveness, paving the way for a more authentic and fulfilling life.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Fostering Independence</i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Maintaining a sense of mystery encourages women to focus on their personal growth and development. Instead of conforming to external expectations, women can explore their interests, passions, and goals independently. This fosters a sense of self-reliance and independence, empowering women to define their identities on their terms.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Cultivating Confidence</i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Mystery can be a confidence booster, creating an aura of intrigue that captures attention and curiosity. By leaving some aspects of oneself undisclosed, women can control the narrative surrounding their lives. This sense of control fosters confidence, as women are no longer bound by societal judgments or the fear of being misunderstood.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Nurturing Personal Relationships</i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In the realm of personal relationships, maintaining a bit of mystery can add an element of excitement and intrigue. It allows for a gradual and genuine unfolding of one's true self, creating a more profound connection with those who are truly interested. By keeping a sense of mystery, women can cultivate relationships based on understanding, respect, and shared values.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><i>Empowering Others & Be Yourself </i></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Choosing to keep a mystery about oneself as a woman can also serve as an inspiration to others. It challenges conventional norms and encourages people, irrespective of gender, to embrace authenticity and break free from societal expectations. By being true to oneself, women can inspire those around them to do the same, contributing to a more inclusive and accepting society.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b>Conclusion</b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">In a world that often pressures women to conform to societal expectations, embracing a sense of mystery can be a revolutionary act of self-empowerment. By defying stereotypes, fostering independence, cultivating confidence, nurturing personal relationships, and empowering others, women can reshape the narrative around their lives. The choice to keep a mystery about oneself is a powerful declaration of autonomy and an invitation to a more authentic and fulfilling existence.</span></p></span><p> </p>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-806477537614366373.post-45925232005246713452024-01-14T10:45:00.000-08:002024-01-14T10:45:51.245-08:00Dating Experiences and Lessons Learned At 30<p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">Last year, I learned firsthand that the dating world in your 30s, especially after a divorce and as a mother of two, can be both exciting and challenging. This past year has been a journey of self-discovery, independence, and a realization of the values that truly matter in a relationship. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0sT2YXif-TUIpkDXD4FAPs9DFE-q8Cahq4KXFwIVKxByXJf8BglBB5aRmzu9MfS__vBfdNF91WOM3KrdYmmrpbbrgkZsx5WieoVPEt5hcx8CCvnzjCXCsT8WHD5glj24oLtmanQ9HuidwCvgn4a8HfAdp8OAHkn11pTjX-x3r-Er0E8Aj0bkyIsQ0bv8v/s2208/IMG_3370.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2208" data-original-width="1242" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0sT2YXif-TUIpkDXD4FAPs9DFE-q8Cahq4KXFwIVKxByXJf8BglBB5aRmzu9MfS__vBfdNF91WOM3KrdYmmrpbbrgkZsx5WieoVPEt5hcx8CCvnzjCXCsT8WHD5glj24oLtmanQ9HuidwCvgn4a8HfAdp8OAHkn11pTjX-x3r-Er0E8Aj0bkyIsQ0bv8v/w360-h640/IMG_3370.jpeg" width="360" /></a></div><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span><span><a name='more'></a></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">In this blog post, I'll share my dating experiences, the lessons learned, and the newfound perspective that has shaped my outlook on love and commitment.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>The Early Challenges</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">In my first year post-divorce, I encountered various men with different intentions. I connected with many of these individuals from dating apps, since I did not have many opportunities to meet people in person. Many of the men seemed to be solely interested in short-term connections, lacking the commitment and depth I was seeking. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">It became evident that not everyone I met shared the same principles and values regarding relationships. This phase was a crucial learning experience, highlighting the importance of being discerning and patient in matters of the heart.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Discovering Independence</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">Last year, my readiness for a serious relationship was hindered by a lack of independence. Living without my own space and starting over after heartbreak made me realize the importance of self-sufficiency. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">However, the journey toward independence was a process. It involved finding an apartment, maintaining a working job, paying my bills, and experiencing life on my terms. This newfound sense of autonomy has been empowering and pivotal in preparing me for a committed relationship.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Changing Priorities</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">As I continue to navigate the dating landscape, my priorities have evolved. It's no longer just about finding companionship; it's about aligning with someone whose morals, principles, and character resonate with mine. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">The desire for a committed relationship has grown stronger. I am more focused on having a well-balanced life, household, and mind. I've come to understand that true compatibility goes beyond surface-level connections.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Seeking Alignment</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">One of the significant shifts in my approach to dating is the emphasis on shared values and spirituality. I've realized the importance of seeking a partner with a relationship with God, as it forms a foundation for a deeper connection. This has become non-negotiable, as I believe that shared faith can contribute to the strength and resilience of a relationship.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Patience and Self-Improvement</i></b></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">In the pursuit of a committed relationship, patience has become a valuable virtue. Rather than rushing into a connection for the sake of it, I've chosen to invest time in self-improvement. This period of self-discovery allows me to grow individually, making me a better partner when the right person comes along.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><b><i>Conclusion</i></b></span></span></p><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">My dating experience at 30, post-divorce, has been a transformative journey. From facing the challenges of casual connections to embracing independence and changing priorities, each step has contributed to my personal growth. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: times;">Now, with a clearer sense of self and a stronger desire for a committed relationship, I am navigating the dating world with patience, discernment, and a hopeful heart. As I continue this journey, I look forward to the day when the right person discovers the person I've become – independent, resilient, and ready for a love that aligns with my values.</span></span></p><div><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; white-space: pre;"><br /></span></div>Linda B Hurdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07436658517412085198noreply@blogger.com0