They want to overshadow my choices as a single woman, and how I parent, and question my accountability to handling a household on my own. I've come to realize that this life is mine to live, and the choices I make are mine alone to make.
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When we think of clubbing, we often envision energetic crowds, cups and bottles of alcohol being enjoyed, and a DJ on the mic hyping the crowd up. It's a scene that seems tailor-made for the younger generation, leaving many people in their 30s wondering if they should retire from enjoying the scene.
I don’t know about you, but my baby the month of January always packs gentle blows. It’s something about the start of the year that can leave some people feeling a little down or unsure about the next month. Striving for the better and keeping your faith strong no matter how life is coming at you is one of the keys to progress.
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I know people that call this dirty thirty however I have been getting out of the mud enough in my 20s, my love. I have been talking about turning 30 and being in my thirties since I was in my early 20s. I’ve always (and I mean, always) felt like a 30-something-year-old woman.
Living to experience another birthday is a blessing in itself. I didn’t know much about my own strength and faith in God until this age. Year 29 showed me how ruthless life and the people in it can get while your back is up against a wall. I experienced many heavy days and unsettling nights. I'm just thankful to say that I made it through and here’s my raw and unfiltered truth on the 29 things I learned at 29 in no particular order. Let’s go!
What is the purpose of wearing a bra to feel just as sexy as you should feel naked?
When the phone rings or when a text message comes across your phone displaying a particular number or phone contact, be at peace within your heart with the decision not to answer. I have had people come into my life that only want to talk to me about what's going on with my personal business. I am sure you can relate too.
I learned a little something in June 2021. I made it through the beginning of my last trimester of pregnancy sain and feeling better than what I did earlier during the month. I decided to create a shortlist of things stuck with me in June rather than just long hand-writing them out. Let's get into what I learned!
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These past few days and weeks have been heavy. I have learned to put them down and push them away on a boat. I envision my troubles being carried away to sea as I wave goodbye with a smile. I have learned that it takes more energy to hold onto pain and frustration than what it takes to find methods to let it go. There are people who cannot handle the truth once it’s spoken. Those are the same people then find fault in the one who’s willing to speak it.
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Motherhood requires sacrifice. You learn to let go of anything and anyone that can hinder you from creating precious moments with your child or children. I was afraid to become a stay at home mom because I was always told to be independent.
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You can not pay your bills with free products or social
media promotion from a company sharing you on their social media pages. The
influencer life that so many people have been losing sleep over and chasing in
their daydreams is the lifestyle that hunted in me in my nightmares. So many
women are afraid to admit that the influencer lifestyle is not ideal for every
woman who’s trying to grow her platform.
It took me two trips outside to the faucet in front of my home to retrieve three gallons of water. I grew up without any running water in my home. That meant no such thing as a hot water heater. It also meant no such thing as a sink or bathtub. I only interacted with a real bathtub or kitchen while at my auntie's trailer or a friend’s house.
Some folks would be surprised to know that there are people who are in a secret competition with them. The plot twist is that they are still losing the competition they mentally created with you. There are also people that love to compare their growth to others in their niche. For me, the goal is to outdo me!
If
you’re not on any of the popular social media apps, then many people would raise
an eyebrow. However, it is not always a bad thing to not be in the constant ring
of gaining likes, followers, and attention from strangers 95% of the time.
I was not
surprised by the massive response that Megan The Stallion’s Hot Girl Summer brought. Many women key termed the phrase hot girl summer this year and lived
it. Like many of you who did not participate in the hot girl summer madness, there was a lot to see on social media and tv. There were all sorts of
twerking, hooking up with random people, and lots of recovering from drastic
hangovers.
It’s July and I came into this month with prayer. June was mentally exhausting for me. My faith was shaken. Some weeks I felt like I lacked direction. There were days that I reminded myself that it is okay to rest. It’s okay to stop and smell the flowers. Just remember to keep going.
Giving
into your cravings, all the time is not the answer.
This entire month of May has taught me to not give up on any goals that I once placed on the back burner. I'm determined to accomplish the goals that once believed were not possible.
