There’s a particular kind of whiplash that can come with entering your 30s. It is looking around at your actual life then quickly realizing it does not quite match the highlight reel you may have started building in your head or Pinterest saves in your early 20’s. 

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For all the praise women get for being strong, nobody talks openly about what that strength quietly costs. Folk’s love calling women “independent,” as if it is always some badge of honor, but baby, they do not say much about how lonely it can feel. I am talking about when you have become so used to carrying yourself that softness starts to feel like a luxury. 

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I asked him for help. I genuinely asked with good intentions. Not for everything. Not for anything crazy at all; just something. Life be lifing. I am raising two elementary school aged kids, working, showing up, handling everything like most mothers do. So I asked… and he said no.

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Oh, baby it is about to start getting cold outside! If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mom, a teacher’s assistant, and a woman with a lot on her plate is that it’s that preparation is everything. Right now the year is almost coming to a close and it is way too often when it feels as if the holidays sneak up on us. I can see and understand how it can bring stress instead of joy. This year, I’ve promised myself to be intentional. I am talking about not just with my money, but with my mindset.

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