After I gave birth to my first child life as a mother really started to hit me hard. I was no longer working due to me not having any close family members near me that I can trust to watch my child so I can have the option to return back to work. I was a loner too. 

Going to work or just heading out the door and seeing other humans and interacting with them was one of the many highlights of my day. Life has changed for me and I embraced it all along with motherhood. I just wanted to share a few things that a lot of women won't tell you about becoming a stay at home mother for the very first time. 

Postpartum depression and anxiety are really real. 

While you were pregnant you probably read or even browsed through a few articles about postpartum depression and anxiety. I sure did and felt like I was just counting down not only the days until I gave birth and became a mother, but the days I that I had left to think of life as I was living it.

The days and weeks pass by quicker. 

If you were working any type of job that helped you pay the bills and keep you out of your home then you possibly kept track of the days better. Well, of course, you did you! You had known when you were going to get paid and when you needed to pay your bills. When you become a stay-at-home mom for the very first time you start to feel out of touch with what was once your day to day life. 
Social media becomes a place of habit or detachment. 

For me, I was never really a social media butterfly. I always kept a low-key lifestyle and hardly ever post weekly or daily photos of my life. However, after becoming a mother I feel a little bit more detached from social media outlets. For some new stay at home moms, the lurk on social media becomes real! Like for real! If you were a loner before you gave birth and even if you still are after you will probably find yourself indulging more on social media with your phone than ever before. 

Earning, keeping, and stacking money messes with you.  

Your life starts to really feel like you aren't really living to your fullest potential. You're constantly thinking about getting out the house and going shopping or thinking about ways you can start stacking money that you don't have. 

If you so used to working and feeling independent my advice to you is to let go of the past and find ways to embrace the future. 
You feel pressure and judgment from those around you who aren't in your shoes.

I could probably go on and on about this topic. You will feel like you're under pressure to bounce back into work, cooking, cleaning, and keeping up with the bills. You will be wearing multiple hats and you will feel like no one truly understands.

If you are a breastfeeding mother you will probably feel drained and overwhelmed from constantly feeding your newborn(s). There will be days that you will feel damn neared glued to your bed or sofa with pumping or feeding. There will be days you are not going to want to be bothered with anyone or even want anyone over at your home. You will value calmness and silence more than you have ever done in your life. 

It will get better and even easier to cope with. Every day that you get the opportunity to live and be a mother, be thankful. You are living a life filled with purpose and you have a life or lives that you are responsible for taking care of. I understand what it is like to feel alone, broke, and even overwhelmed with being a new mother. Speak over yourself and your baby or babies before starting each day. Go outside and get some fresh air if you can and push through it all Queen. 

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