Let me lay it out, just as handwashed clothes with Ivory soap were placed on a clothesline to dry on a warm summer’s day. For years, I carried this quiet pressured weight wondering if tying the knot at 20 meant I was falling behind. Never spoke about it out loud. I let the thought settle deep. Often it showed up every time I caught myself measuring my life against somebody else’s highlight reel.
They say to take a deep breath in and then out to feel relief. I did this several times in the past before it points where you realize that arguing with someone who refuses to show up mentally, emotionally, or physically is not communication. It is chaos. It is disappointing. I spent months.
This week felt like I was on the passenger side in a hell cat that was going over 175 miles an hour with all the windows down. I’m on the passenger side of the car screaming. The music is bleeding through the speakers. I can't make out the melody that is being played. The impact of the air is clogging my words in my throat. There's tears coming from my eyes. I’m looking over at the driver. I am not even being able to tell them to stop. The driver is a blur to me. Who is the damn driver? I just feel pure chaos with each roaring of the engine. This was week ride!
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Let’s talk about what happened last weekend. This was on Good Friday night too. I had to take a minute to regroup mentally after this because some folks play for a reaction from you. When they do not get the reaction, they start questioning their own intentions from the jump.
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Hey, y’all! It's almost the end of the year. The school has now started here in Southeast, Louisiana. I've been thinking a lot about my struggles with co-parenting with my ex-husband. Or should I say the lack of co-parenting? This year has been particularly tough. He's been blowing off our court-ordered weekends like they're nothing.
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July 2024 was a hella tough month. But as I sit here chillin', I'm grateful for making it through and coming out stronger on the other side. Money-wise, it was a real struggle.
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I managed to keep my head above water. Paid all my bills and rent on time. I even managed to put food on the table for me and my two kids despite the budget being tighter than a pair of jeans most ladies jump to get into.
Co-parenting is the art of jointly raising a child after separation or divorce. It is often portrayed as a harmonious collaboration between two mature adults for the well-being of their child or children. However, reality can be far from this idealized picture.
Meal planning can take a back seat in many households throughout the month. However, with a bit of organization and strategic thinking, it's possible to create filling meals for even the pickiest of eaters in your family while sticking to a budget.
Living on a low income is a challenging reality for many individuals, especially those who are responsible for supporting children. Whether the child support payments are under 20 dollars or well over a hundred keeping the child support away from your monthly budget is essential. Under this type of circumstance, every penny counts, and budgeting becomes a crucial aspect of financial survival.
The journey of co-parenting after a divorce comes with its own set of challenges, and for the past four days, I've found myself grappling with the emotional turmoil of not being able to see my two precious children. During these difficulties, it's become clear that my ex-husband's actions are more than just a matter of logistics—they are a deliberate attempt to exert control and inflict emotional pain.
Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude, family, and feasting. However, for single mothers on a tight budget, the holiday season can be a source of stress and financial strain. But don’t worry, girl with careful planning and some creative thinking, you can still create a memorable Thanksgiving without breaking the bank.
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration with those you love. However, for those who are newly divorced and adjusting to single parenthood, it can be a challenging and emotionally charged time.
Parenting is an incredible journey, filled with joy, challenges, and countless memorable moments. However, when you're raising two kids on a limited income, it can be a tough balancing act. I am not here to glorify the living paycheck to paycheck lifestyle.
Co-parenting can be a challenging journey within itself. It requires effective communication, cooperation, and a shared commitment to the well-being of your children. However, when you find yourself trying to co-parent with a narcissist, it can become a nightmare of manipulation, control, and emotional turmoil.
Life as a single mom comes with its unique set of challenges. But when you add high-functioning depression to the mix, the struggle can become even more overwhelming. While the world may see an ambitious, capable woman, inside, there's a silent war raging.
Life is a journey filled with twists and turns, and sometimes it presents us with unexpected challenges. As a single mom of two in her thirties, I know this better than anyone else. The responsibilities as a parent are already significant, and now, the decision to start taking birth control may seem like another difficult choice to make.
Last year during the summertime of 2022, I was in a financial bind while still living with a friend and her family with my two kids. Last year, I paid for a divorce out of pocket with no job, a resume that wasn’t helping me get any work-from-home jobs I applied for, and without a car. I felt helpless.
As the summer draws close, a wave of excitement and anticipation is weeping through my household. The new school year is just around the corner, and as a parent of two wonderful kids, I can't help but feel a mix of emotions – from enthusiasm to a touch of nervousness.
As the scorching Louisiana sun blazes overhead, July has been a month filled with exciting changes and newfound independence for me in Baton Rouge. Settling into my new apartment, mastering the art of cooking filling meals, and reveling in the joy of living as an independent woman have been the three pivotal things that have shaped my journey this month.
You are not alone if you are a mother who desperately needs a break from her child or children from time to time. There was a study that revealed mothers work on average 98 hours a week.
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