When was the last time you and your spouse
had a deep conversation? A deep conversation that did not cut any corners can sometimes
be difficult to finish. It’s best that in every relationship that there is room
for transparency. Think about how much even a
30-minute, distraction-free, emotional block-busting session once per week can do
for your relationship.
You can conduct a truth
session with your partner in the comfort of the bed you both share. For real! I
want to challenge you to give it just one go and see what comes of it. If you
don't like the outcome of the session you never have to do it again. Of course,
you already know this. Now, this exercise could be the one thing you need to
take your relationship from being on life support to making serious progress.
How can I best support you when you can not
find the words to speak?
Emotional triggers hit differently when you start feeling
vulnerable from a variety of different situations.
Your
partner may feel easily attacked when say something about their behavior as of
lately. Maybe your partner tends to get aggressive when you complain or argue
about certain emotionally charged topics like sex, finances, or the in-laws. Plus,
maybe something could happen on the job that makes them feel inadequate or
embarrassed.
It does not matter what the issue could be. There are
many ways to make your partner feel loved, cared for, and respected.
Has there been any argument that we have had recently
that has left you with mixed feelings?
There is a saying that goes, “Saying no hurts for a
moment, but saying yes hurts for months.” Being assertive and direct with our
desires can be uncomfortable. However, if we fail to be honest with our partners
then low-lying anxiety can spark by not being true to ourselves.
It
can be easy to brush off the difficult moments from the past week. It takes
strength and dignity to get this across to your partner with good intentions. Keeping
the pathway clear to be open and honest with your inner thoughts and feelings
is key in any relationship.
How do you feel about our current sex life?
Having sex with your partner has a huge impact on many relationships.
Sex is also ranked as the most common topic that couples cite as the most
stressful part of their relationships that they don't discuss often. A poor sex
life on purpose can lead your relationship towards a nasty break-up.
Have
a heart to heart conversation with your partner about their level of
satisfaction with your recent sex life. Also ask them if there's anything they
would like more of, less of.
Feel free
to even go deeper and ask them about incorporating different sex toys, positions,
or edibles that you may be curious about. Have patience with this topic of
conversation. This conversation also may be better suited for those who have
been in a relationship for a longer period.
When you come in from work is there anything that I can
do to make you feel better?
If your partner is out of work, then you can switch this
question up. You can ask them instead, “Is there anything I can do to help you
along the way of your job search?”
They might want to have a little distance or communication
as possible when they come home from work and need time to settle down. Or
they may just head off to play their Xbox or PlayStation to get their mind off
their day.
Perhaps they may be the type to give you the right amount of physical
affection as is their way of warming up to you. Whatever they need, all it
takes is one simple question for you to better understand your partner and to
go deeper in your relationship.
Are there any ways that you think I can better support
you in life?
What’s a meaningful relationship if you are with someone
who does not support you? This question will spark something for your partner
and even you if you take turns answering it.
Your
partner may appreciate you for making him lunch or work setting out his work
clothes the night before. Or your partner may want a little bit more encouragement
throughout the day in text messages or phone calls.
Whatever the favor is they ask of you; you aren't obligated to comply. Just by asking the
question and letting them voice their honest thoughts will help you to both be more engaging in your relationship.
The takeaway
I'm not suggesting that you strive to become
co-dependently obsessed with solving all your partner's troubles. Every topic needs to be stressed in a conversation. Pick a choose any of these
questions that you believe that you’re partner will be comfortable with answering.
Keep
in mind that there are things tend to get swept under the rug in intimate
relationships. The questions outlined above give you a lavage that can be used
to lift the rug, sweep away the accumulated harden emotions, and continue with great
lives as a strongly connected couple.
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