Last year during the summertime of 2022, I was in a financial bind while still living with a friend and her family with my two kids. Last year, I paid for a divorce out of pocket with no job, a resume that wasn’t helping me get any work-from-home jobs I applied for, and without a car. I felt helpless. 

I cried myself to sleep many nights from experiencing anxiety about my next move with my kids. Life also has a unique way of presenting us with challenges that, at first, may seem insurmountable. Yet, within these obstacles lie opportunities for growth and resilience. For many single moms, including myself, the path of raising two children as a divorced parent might appear daunting.

However, with the support of child support, I have learned to embrace the journey, cherish the little moments, and emerge more vital than ever before. I no longer had to beg the man that I had children with to help me to raise them.

Embracing the New Reality

Divorce can be an emotionally challenging experience for any parent, and it's only natural to feel overwhelmed and uncertain about the future. When I found myself as a single mom, my world seemed to have turned upside down. I had to toy with the uncertainty of managing a new life, but my children enlighten me and their smiling faces helped to guide me through the darkest of days.

Accepting the support provided through child support was a critical step in rebuilding our lives. It helped to alleviate some of the financial burdens but also emphasized the bitterness and anger that the children’s father had towards me for placing him on child support. 

Balancing Responsibilities

As a single mom, juggling the responsibilities of parenting, work, and self-care became my daily reality. However, with the financial aid from child support, I was able to breathe a little easier and provide more essentials for my children that I was not able to do on my own at the time.

Creating Meaningful Connections 

Raising two children without a partner to lean on was challenging, but it also highlighted the importance of building a solid support network. I found solace in connecting with other single moms who shared similar experiences online. 

I also remained in connection with my other mom's friends that were wives as well. For I valued having women that supported me throughout the challenges. These friendships provided emotional support, practical advice, and, most importantly, the understanding that I was not alone on this journey.

Child support also emphasized the significance of the broader community. While the financial aspect was essential, the emotional support and encouragement from friends, family, and teachers played a crucial role in nurturing my children's growth.

Teaching Resilience and Independence

Raising kids as a single divorced mom means teaching them resilience and independence from a young age. I am investing in experiences that will challenge them to overcome obstacles and develop a strong sense of self. 

I will also continue to encourage open communication while allowing them to express their emotions and concerns freely. I am determined to foster a healthy parent-child relationship.

By witnessing my determination my children will one day understand that obstacles are stepping stones to success. They will develop a deep sense of empathy and appreciation for the opportunities life offers. I am going to be very proud of the resilient individuals they will become.


Raising two kids with the help of child support as a single divorced mom has been a transformative journey. It taught me the value of embracing change. I understand that seeking support from obtaining legal aid was the right thing to do for my children and that it is for the well-being of my children. While the road may have been challenging, it has moments of joy, growth, and love.

To all the single moms out there, remember that you are stronger than you know. No obstacle is too significant to overcome. Embrace the support available to you and if there is none go out and search for it. Empower your children to face the world with resilience and strength. With love and determination, you can create a bright and beautiful future for yourself and your children.

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