Breaking Free from My Ex Husband's Obsession

in , , by Linda B Hurd, November 10, 2023

Breaking free from a toxic relationship is a difficult journey, but it can be even more challenging when your ex-spouse becomes obsessed with you. I can vividly remember when Mariah Carey came out with the song ‘Obsessed.’

I still sing that song with all my chest even more these days because I am currently divorced from my ex-husband, who is obsessed with making me and my life miserable. In this blog post, I want to share my personal experience of how I managed to move on with my life despite the obsession of my ex-husband. I hope that my story can serve as inspiration and guidance for those who find themselves in a similar situation.

Recognizing the Obsession

When I first realized that my ex-husband was obsessed with me, it was an uncomfortable and unsettling revelation. Obsession can manifest in many ways, from the other person being in denial, to stalking on social media, or doing any, and everything to get to you mentally and emotionally. Recognize the signs and acknowledge that you deserve a life free from this unhealthy attachment.

Seeking Support

Dealing with an obsessed ex-spouse can be incredibly isolating, and the first step to moving on is seeking support. I turned to close friends and family members who provided a safe space to express my feelings. It's best to surround yourself with a support system that understands and cares about your well-being.

Legal Protection

Sometimes, you may need legal action to protect yourself from your ex's obsession. Consulting with an attorney and obtaining a restraining order can be crucial steps in ensuring your safety and peace of mind. Your safety should always be the top priority.

Blocking and Restricting

The digital age has made it easier for ex-partners to stay connected, even when it's not healthy. To regain control of my life, I decided to block my ex-husband's contact information and restrict access to my social media profiles. Blocking and restricting have helped me create a necessary boundary even though he is still trying to hack into my social media accounts on Facebook and Instagram.

Focusing on Self-Care

Moving on with your life after an obsession can be emotionally draining. It's crucial to prioritize self-care during this time. I started meditating, practicing yoga, and seeking professional counseling to help me heal and regain my self-worth.

Establishing New Goals and Interests

One of the most liberating steps in moving on is developing new goals and interests that have nothing to do with your ex. I found a new hobby, pursued a career change, and reconnected with long-lost friends. These positive changes helped me regain a sense of independence and empowerment.

Embracing Independence

It's essential to remember that your happiness and self-worth never have been and will not be tied to your ex-partner's obsession. Embrace your independence and focus on building a fulfilling life without any external validation.

Dating and Building New Relationships

Moving on involves opening yourself up to new relationships. When you are ready, consider dating and building new, healthy connections with people who respect your boundaries and support your growth.


Breaking free from an obsessed ex-spouse can be a challenging journey, but it can be a reality. Recognizing the signs of obsession, seeking support, taking legal action when necessary, and focusing on self-care can help you regain control of your life and move forward confidently. Remember, your happiness is yours to reclaim, and you deserve a life free from the shadow of the past.

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