Online dating comes with all the highs and lows since swiping right and left has become more normalized many of us have ventured into the realm of dating apps with hopes of finding our perfect match.

It's true that dating apps have made it easier to connect with potential partners, but they've also had an unintended consequence: they often divert our focus away from ourselves. After a series of failed connections and self-reflection, I decided to take a bold step – I deleted all my dating apps to focus on myself.

In this blog post, I'll share the reasons behind my decision and the benefits I've experienced since making this choice.

Rediscovering Myself:

One of the primary reasons I deleted my dating apps was to rediscover who I am as an individual. While these apps can introduce us to new people, they also have a way of shaping our self-worth based on external validation. 

Constantly seeking approval and attention from potential matches can cloud our self-perception and make us lose touch with our true selves. By stepping away from the dating app scene, I've had the chance to reconnect with my own interests, values, and goals.

Prioritizing Self-Growth:

In the quest for love, it's easy to neglect personal growth. We often compromise on our own aspirations and dreams to accommodate someone else's life. Deleting dating apps allowed me to prioritize self-improvement and personal development.

I've invested more time in hobbies, taken up new skills, and even currently considering continuing my education. This journey of self-discovery and growth has been incredibly fulfilling and empowering.

Breaking the Comparison Trap:

In the age of dating apps, it's hard not to compare ourselves to the seemingly perfect lives of others displayed on our screens. This constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. By stepping away from dating apps, I've freed myself from this unhealthy comparison trap and learned to appreciate the unique qualities that make me who I am.

Enhancing Mental Well-being:

The world of dating apps can be mentally exhausting. Constant swiping, ghosting, and rejection can take a toll on one's mental health.

By eliminating this source of stress, I've experienced improved mental well-being. My stress levels have reduced, and I now have more time and energy to focus on self-care and mindfulness.

Reevaluating Relationship Goals:

Deleting dating apps doesn't mean I'm giving up on the idea of love or relationships. On the contrary, it has allowed me to reevaluate my relationship goals and what I truly want from a partner. I've become more selective and mindful in my approach to dating, and I'm determined to find a connection that aligns with my values and aspirations.


Choosing to delete all my dating apps and focus on myself has been a liberating experience. It's allowed me to rediscover my identity, prioritize self-growth, break free from the comparison trap, enhance my mental well-being, and reevaluate my relationship goals. 

While this path may not be for everyone, it has proven to be a valuable journey of self-discovery for me. As I continue to invest in myself, I remain open to the possibility of love, but on my own terms, and with a deeper understanding of who I am and what I deserve in a relationship. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by the dating app world, perhaps taking a break to focus on yourself is the right move for you too.

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