Navigating the world of dating as a single divorced mother is a unique journey with challenges and good times. After my divorce, I embarked on a path of self-discovery. I learned early on that it is a crucial aspect of my journey. I had to reevaluate my approach to dating.

In this blog post, I want to share the transformative experience that led me to stop having expectations while dating and how this shift in mindset has brought newfound freedom and authenticity into my life.

Releasing the Weight of Expectations

As a single mother, it's easy to bring a set of expectations into the dating realm. I realized that these expectations, whether consciously or subconsciously held, were burdening my experiences. Expecting a potential partner to fit a particular mold or fulfill preconceived notions limited my ability to connect with others authentically.

Embracing the Unpredictability of Life

Life, especially as a single parent, is unpredictable. When I stopped imposing expectations on my dating life, I embraced the uncertainty that comes with it. This shift allowed me to appreciate the organic and unpredictable nature of forming connections, making each interaction a unique and genuine experience.

Focusing on Personal Growth

Instead of expecting others to fulfill certain roles or meet specific criteria, I redirected my focus inward. I began to prioritize my personal growth and well-being. There will be men interested in getting to know you, but not willing to commit to the thought of doing it. You can text, call, and compliment, but not to the point that as a woman you are placing too much thought into a lopsided connection. 

Cultivating Mindfulness in the Present

Expectations often pull us into the future, creating unnecessary anxiety about what may or may not happen. By letting go of expectations, I learned to appreciate and be mindful of the present moment. This mindfulness allowed me to savor the joy of getting to know someone without the pressure of predefined outcomes.

Honoring Individual Journeys

Every person comes with a unique history, experiences, and journey. Releasing expectations allowed me to extend grace towards the individuality of others, respecting their paths and appreciating the diversity of perspectives that enrich the dating experience.


In relinquishing expectations while dating as a single divorced mother, I discovered a newfound sense of freedom and authenticity. This shift has deepened my connections with others and allowed me to appreciate the beauty of each moment without the constraints of predetermined outcomes.

As I continue this journey of self-discovery and connection, I encourage fellow single parents to consider embracing the unpredictability of dating, allowing for genuine connections to flourish organically, unburdened by the weight of expectations. After all, in letting go, we often find what we truly seek – authentic connections and the freedom to enjoy the journey.

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