Being a mom is one thing. Being a single mom is another. Even if we had 8 arms the amount of work and parenting responsibilities to managing finances and maintaining a household, the daily grind can often feel overwhelming. But for some of us, the challenges extend beyond the tangible responsibilities. Sometimes mental health struggles like depression and anxiety can try to plague our lives as well.
For a long time, I battled silently with these demons of depression and anxiety. I have learned how to put on a brave face for my children while feeling like I was drowning inside. The weight of it all seemed insurmountable. There were days when just getting out of the bed I shared with my kids left me weary in tears. But through the darkness, a glimmer of hope emerged – a determination to not let my circumstances define me, but rather to rise above them and reclaim my happiness.
Acknowledging the Problem
The first step in my journey towards healing was acknowledging that I needed help. For far too long, I had brushed aside my feelings, convincing myself that I was just going through a light situation or stressed. But as the days turned into weeks and the weeks into months, it became clear that this was more than just fatigue – it was a battle for my mental well-being.
Seeking Support
As a single mom, it can be easy to fall into the trap of trying to do it alone. But I quickly realized that I couldn't fight this battle alone. I reached out to friends and family for support, opening up about my struggles and allowing myself to be vulnerable. Their unwavering love and encouragement became my lifeline, reminding me I was not alone in this fight.
I also sought professional help. Scheduling therapy sessions to address the root causes of my depression and anxiety. Self-care looked more like purchasing books to help strengthen my mind and thoughts.
As well as talking to a trained therapist provided me with invaluable tools and coping mechanisms to navigate the ups and downs of single parenthood while prioritizing my mental health.
Practicing Self-Care
As a single mom, it's easy to put your needs on the back burner. I understand how prioritizing the well-being of your children can come above all else. But I quickly learned that self-care isn't selfish – it's necessary for survival. I started carving out time for myself each day.
Whether it was going to shower until the hot water ran cold, putting my kids to bed earlier to have an extra hour to myself, or indulging in a good book. These small acts of self-love helped recharge my spirit and gave me the strength to face each day with renewed vigor.
Finding Joy in the Little Things
During my struggles, I made an effort to find joy in the little things. The little things can be as simple as hearing my children's laughter. The warmth of the sun on my face. The peace I have once my kids are fast asleep. By focusing on the present moment and cultivating gratitude for the blessings in my life, I was able to shift my perspective and find solace amid chaos.
Setting Goals and Moving Forward
Recovery from depression and anxiety is not a linear journey. It’s realistically okay to experience setbacks along the way. But instead of dwelling on the past, I choose to focus on the future.
Setting small achievable goals to work towards each day helps. Whether it is pursuing a new hobby, putting time towards my passions, or simply being present for my children, I am committed to taking proactive steps toward a better future.
Closing Thoughts
Being a single mom coping with depression and anxiety is not easy, but it's a battle worth fighting. Through self-reflection, support from loved ones, and a commitment to self-care, I am determined to overcome these obstacles and emerge stronger than before. My journey towards healing is ongoing.
However, I am reminded of my resilience and the power of hope. Though the road may be long and challenging, I face it with unwavering determination. I have faith in knowing that a brighter future awaits on the other side.
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