When we think about condoms, the image that often comes to mind is of single individuals. Single individuals are not the only people navigating the complexities of dating and having casual encounters. The reality is far broader. Condoms have a place in the lives of married and committed couples too.

Condoms offer not just contraception but also protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). In this post, I'll share my personal experience of using condoms while married. I also still keep a stash of condoms as well for myself and others who may need them.

In this blog post, I discuss the prevalence of condom use among couples today and challenge the stigma surrounding their use in committed relationships.

My Journey

When I was married, my partner and I made a conscious decision to use condoms as part of our birth control strategy. This choice wasn't born out of distrust or fear. We chose a commitment to responsible family planning and sexual health. While we were both monogamous, we recognized the importance of safeguarding against unplanned pregnancies.

Our decision to use condoms was between our union. It was no one’s business what was happening in our personal sex life. There's often a societal assumption that once you're married, condoms become obsolete. However, we approached condom use as a proactive measure, prioritizing our health and well-being.

Condom Use Among Married Couples

Contrary to popular belief, condom use among married and committed couples is more common than many realize. According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, approximately 19% of married couples reported using condoms as their primary form of contraception.

Additionally, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) highlights that consistent condom use can reduce the risk of STI transmission, making them a valuable tool for sexually active couples.

Why Condom Use Isn't Embarrassing

Despite the prevalence of condom use among married couples, there's still a lingering sense of embarrassment or shame associated with it. Some may view it as a sign of mistrust or promiscuity within the relationship. However, this statement couldn't be further from the truth.

Using condoms in marriage is a responsible choice that demonstrates a commitment to both partners' health and safety. It's a proactive step towards preventing unplanned pregnancies. It also helps to reduce the risk of STIs no matter the level of trust and fidelity in the relationship.

Furthermore, discussing condom use openly and without judgment fosters communication and mutual respect between partners. Having the conversation can make both individuals feel empowered to prioritize their sexual health and well-being without fear of judgment or stigma.

Birth Control: A Frowned Upon Preventive Option?

In some circles, birth control, including condoms, may be viewed with skepticism or disapproval. Birth control serves a crucial role in empowering individuals to make informed choices about their reproductive health.

Whether it's condoms, oral contraceptives, or other forms of birth control, each method offers individuals the autonomy to plan their families. The choices can help one pursue education and career goals and prioritize their overall well-being. Birth control in some ways could be celebrated as a fundamental aspect of reproductive rights and healthcare access.


My journey with condom use during marriage taught me valuable lessons about communication, responsibility, and prioritizing health in relationships. Condoms aren't just a magic rubber thing for single individuals navigating the dating scene. They're a vital aspect of sexual health and family planning for couples of all types.

As we challenge the stigma surrounding condom use in committed relationships, let's embrace open and honest conversations about sexual health. Let’s also talk and have an honest conversation about contraception and the importance of informed decision-making. Together, we can create a culture that celebrates responsible choices and empowers individuals to prioritize their well-being.

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