31 Things I Learned At 31

in , , by Linda B Hurd, January 29, 2025

Turning 31 was a quiet milestone. 31 brought abundant lessons and growth I didn’t even know I needed. This year wasn’t about falling in love, traveling the world, or flashy moments for the Gram—it was about small, steady lessons. The lessons that I learned helped reshape how I view myself, my relationships, and the life I want to live.

In the spirit of reflection and growth, I’ve compiled a list of 31 things I’ve learned at 31. Some lessons were hard-earned through challenges. Some lessons came through moments of clarity during everyday life. Whether you’re entering your 30s or reflecting on your journey, I hope these insights resonate with you as much as they’ve shaped me this year. Let’s get into it.


  1. I am responsible for the woman I choose to cultivate. 
  2. Sometimes it is best to stop explaining and walk away.
  3. Phone calls going to DND after 9:05 pm every weekday night are essential.
  4. People talk a lot and their actions will prove how they will move with you.
  5. After the first point of verbal disrespect, block them.
  6. Have a piece of chocolate and savor it.
  7. The phone calls and the audio text messages go far with communication. 
  8. Take the photos & save the memory.
  9. The insults hidden in their jokes are how they feel about you.
  10. The art of detachment will save you emotionally.
  11. The answer is in their silence towards you.
  12. Your kids are aware of your emotions.
  13. In many situations, you wear the badge of being the bigger person.
  14. I can make a lot from the struggle I have been given. 
  15. Morning affirmations will keep you lifted.
  16. You are an auditory learner for sure.
  17. Going back to college to finish your sophomore year will empower you.
  18. People will always judge your job title by your earnings & not how it benefits your lifestyle.
  19. Evenings talking on the phone with your mama are sacred. 
  20. Continue to purchase more books & less toys for your kids.
  21. Not having a car at this age hasn’t defined me.
  22. Your intuition never lies. 
  23.  If you tell somebody something twice then you begging.
  24. A sleep routine for your kids even on the weekend is crucial. 
  25. It’s okay to tell your kids you do not know the answer to some of their questions.
  26. Have no expectations for people.
  27. Talk less.
  28.  Buy the self-pleasure toys.
  29. Buy the lingerie for you.
  30.  Morning and nighttime skincare routines pay off.
  31. Buy the house dresses and wear them as much as possible.
**Take yourself out and date you as much as possible. 

What’s one lesson that stood out to you this past year? I'd love to hear in the comments!
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