October 2nd will mark my first month into the role as an assistant teacher. I have been getting a lot of DMs and emails about what I do as well. Since stepping into my new role as a teacher’s assistant I have also been subbing for 6th and 7th graders.
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Working as an assistant teacher and substitute has taught me more about patience, discipline, and self-control than I ever imagined. I will start by saying that every day in the classroom brings a new challenge and a new opportunity to grow. You will find yourself growing not just as an educator, but as a woman determined to set boundaries and thrive.
Here are the three biggest lessons I’ve learned one month in:
1. Don’t Take Anything Personal
Middle schoolers will test your patience in ways you can’t prepare for. Elementary is filled with the dramatics everyday! They’re discovering themselves, their voices, and sometimes their attitudes. What I had to realize this early on is that: their behavior is not a reflection of me.
If a student doesn't want to ask for help to do an assignment, refuses to follow directions, or makes a slick comment, I don’t let it make me crash out. Instead, I remind myself to separate my emotions from the situation. Once I stopped taking things personally, I was able to show up calm, consistent, and unbothered. I did this all without carrying extra weight on my shoulders.
2. I Don’t Take My Work Day Home With Me
When the school bell rings, I make my way home as soon as I can because I have learned to leave work at work. I’ve learned that if I carry the stress, frustration, or energy of the classroom home with me, it robs me of my own peace. As a mom, my evenings are for my children and myself.
My evenings are not for replaying classroom moments in my head. This boundary has kept me sane, grounded, and able to show up looking dolled up the next day. Protecting my mental space is just as important as classroom management whether I am alone or helping my lead teacher.
3. Set the Tone From the Start
The moment students walk into the classroom, they’re watching to see what they can get away with. That’s why I’ve learned to set the tone immediately. My first two weeks, I was smiling and showing teeth. When I tell you some of the students thought that they could play with me and I switched up real quick before my third week even came.
I understand now how my body language, voice, and expectations matter. When I demand respect from the beginning, I get it. The children can call me whatever they want, but I’m standing 10 toes down in the classroom for my respect. If I’m firm yet fair, the students understand that I’m not someone they can walk over. Setting the tone isn’t about being mean or being arrogant. For me it's about showing them that I value structure, and they should too.
Final Thoughts
This first month has been filled with lessons that I know will carry me throughout the school year. So far, being in the classroom has reminded me that respect is earned. Boundaries are necessary. Peace of mind is priceless. I’m not perfect. Every day isn’t easy. However, I’m proud of how I’ve grown already.
Here’s to many more lessons! Not only for my students, but for me as well.
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