The journey of co-parenting after a divorce comes with its own set of challenges, and for the past four days, I've found myself grappling with the emotional turmoil of not being able to see my two precious children. During these difficulties, it's become clear that my ex-husband's actions are more than just a matter of logistics—they are a deliberate attempt to exert control and inflict emotional pain. 

When I have our children, I know for a sure thing that I can not call or reach out to him because he keeps my primary phone number on the block list. Now that he has the kids after I had to demand a break by standing firm on standing up for myself after he went two months without seeing them on court visitation weekends on purpose, I have to go through him bullying me through text messages while he has them. 

Threats of reporting me to the police and filing reports on me through the police, because he does not want to spend any more additional time with our two kids for one week, is what he has been affirming. In this blog post, I share my thoughts on these trying times and the resilience that comes from facing adversity head-on.

A Rollercoaster of Emotions

The past three days have been a rollercoaster of emotions as I've navigated the difficult reality of not being able to see my children. From the initial shock to the waves of sadness and frustration, each moment feels like a battle against the emotional storm. It's challenging to comprehend that motives beyond the well-being of our family drive decisions impacting my time with my kids.

Choosing Resilience Over Despair

In the face of adversity, I've decided to choose resilience over despair. It's easy to succumb to the weight of the situation, but I've found strength in focusing on the things I can control—my reactions, emotions, and how I choose to cope.

This resilience isn't just for me; it's a testament to my love for my children and my commitment to providing them with a stable and nurturing environment, even when external circumstances try dictate otherwise.

Understanding the Motivations

While it may be tempting to dwell on the injustice of the situation, I've also taken time to reflect on the motivations behind my ex-husband's actions. It's become apparent that the desire to control and inflict emotional suffering is at the heart of these decisions. As difficult as it is to comprehend, understanding the root cause is the first step toward breaking free from the emotional chains and finding a path forward.

Seeking Support and Connection

During these challenging times, seeking support from friends, and family, seeking a professional counselor can be instrumental. Sharing my feelings with those who care about me helps with emotional relief but also helps to put things into perspective. Connection is a powerful antidote to the isolation that can come in these situations, reminding me that I am not alone in facing these challenges.

Focusing on the Future

As I navigate this difficult chapter, I keep my eyes on the future. I hustle. I do all that I can for my children. T obstacles that currently stand in the way of our time together. By focusing on creating a positive and loving environment, both when we are apart and reunite, I hope to shield my children from the negative impact of external conflicts.


The past four days have tested my emotional strength and resilience, but I refuse to let the challenges define me. As a mother, my love for my children remains unwavering, and I am determined to provide them with the stability and warmth they deserve.

In the face of adversity, I choose resilience, understanding that the storm will eventually pass, leaving behind the strength that comes from weathering the toughest times.

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