As we bid farewell to the first month of 2024, I have reflected on the valuable lessons that January has brought into my life. Not only did I have a birthday, but I also chose to distance myself and energy this year to mentally and emotionally grow.

This year has begun the halfway mark of my life post-divorce. January was a month that demanded my attention. I was watchful of energies that were disturbing me and my period of self-discovery and growth, with three key insights standing out prominently. In this blog post, I share the lessons that revolve around detachment, skepticism, and the importance of protecting one's peace of mind.

Detachment from the Unnecessary

January 2024 taught me the art of detachment – letting go of family ties, friendships, and situations that no longer served a purpose in my life. One thing that I knew I was not going to be coming into this year was codependent on any relationship within my life.

I prefer to have a mystery about the life I live off the internet. I am thankful for the friendships; that I have with women who value my urge to break away and disappear while I get myself together. I do not ever want to be the friend who is seeking out a therapy session through my friendship every time we chat.

It is mentally and emotionally exhausting at times to feel vulnerable. I have accepted that I am 31 and that I am still figuring out life on my own. That’s okay. I embrace the growing pains, but I am damn sure not sulking in the bed because of it.

This newfound awareness encouraged me to evaluate my relationships and surroundings critically. I realized that holding onto things that bring negativity or contribute nothing positive to my well-being only hinders personal growth.

Detachment is not a sign of weakness; instead, it is an acknowledgment of self-worth and the understanding that one deserves to be surrounded by positivity and support.

No Longer Giving the Benefit of the Doubt

Another significant lesson I learned this January was the importance of skepticism in relationships. While giving people the benefit of the doubt is often seen as a virtue, I realized that it can sometimes lead to disappointment and heartache.

Trust should be earned; in all ways and always.

The blind faith that one can embody can leave them vulnerable to those who may not have our best interests at heart. This realization has prompted me to approach relationships with a healthy dose of skepticism, encouraging me to set boundaries and discern who I let into my life. 

Protective of Peace of Mind

Amidst the chaos of life, I discovered just how protective I am of my peace of mind. Post-divorce, cultivating a life filled with positivity and tranquility became a priority. January emphasized the significance of guarding my mental and emotional well-being fiercely.

Whether saying no to toxic relationships, avoiding unnecessary drama, or practicing self-care, I've come to understand that peace of mind is a precious commodity that requires conscious effort to maintain.

This newfound protectiveness has become a cornerstone in shaping the life I am actively building for myself.


January 2024 has been a month of self-reflection and personal growth. It was a month marked by the lessons of detachment, skepticism, and protecting my peace of mind. As I navigate the journey of post-divorce life, these insights have become guiding principles, helping me create a space that fosters growth, positivity, and personal well-being. Embracing change and learning from life's lessons has allowed me to step into February with newfound strength and resilience.

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