Losing yourself can happen slowly. Before you know it, you have given your energy to heartbreak, exhaustion, and responsibilities. One day you wake up and realize you’ve been surviving and not shining. However, there is no need to feel down and out. Your confidence isn’t gone. Your confidence is buried under the weight of everything you have carried.
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Here’s how to rebuild it, one layer at a time.
1. Remember who you were before life tried to
silence you.
I would love for you to think back to the version of you that dreamed without hesitation,
laughed loudly, and believed she could do anything. I believe she is still in
there. She is reconnecting with her means giving yourself permission to start
again without shame.
2. Speak life over yourself daily.
There is life in the power of the tongue. Start every morning with affirmations
that remind you who you are: “I am capable. I am worthy. I am enough.”
Don’t wait for others to validate you, sis. You can be your own encourager.
3. Do small things that rebuild trust with
yourself.
What I suggest doing is keeping promises to yourself, even the littlest of promises.
Finish that task. Drink your water. Physically write that journal entry. Did
you know that every kept promise strengthens your confidence muscle.
4. Release what broke you but no longer defines
you.
You cannot heal in the same environment that hurt you. Once you let go of
people, habits, or thought patterns that keep reopening the wound you will
reinvent yourself. You will become so much more confident, and your happiness
will become infectious.
5. Celebrate progress, not perfection.
Confidence does not come from never falling, it comes from standing up again.
Clap for yourself on the small wins. Healing should not have a goal post. I
believe healing is constantly happening.
6. Redefine beauty and success on your own terms.
For many women, social media will make them believe confidence is looks, likes,
or luxury. Real confidence is peace. Confidence is even knowing that even
without applause, you are still valuable.
Overall, rebuilding confidence is like tending to be a garden.
You also do not need to have a green thumb to make it happen. Rebuilding confidence
takes patience, pruning, and daily attention. Some days you will bloom and other
days you will just water the soil. Eventually, you will get to gazing around
and realize the woman staring back at you is not broken; she is blooming.
You do not have to become a new woman to be confident; you must
allow yourself the chance to come home to yourself again.
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