You have probably discovered one of the best men that you can see yourself being with. You have shared some of the most deepest conversations, dates, and have taken a whole lot of photos. Maybe you feel like a lot of your friends, family members, and co-workers have already found their true love and you are just left living that single life. I am here today to tell you that you are not alone. Before you jump into a serious relationship with 'him' here are just a few questions that you should ask before you both take things to the next level...

When was the last time you been to the doctor? 

This question may raise his eyebrows, but let me shed some light on case studies in the black community. Asking this question and seeing the paper work will save you in the long run.In 2011, the diagnosis rate for HIV cases in the United States was 15.8 per 100,000 population and 60.4 among Blacks. Of 197,090 diagnoses of HIV-infection from 2008-2011, Blacks/African Americans accounted for:

47% of the total
64% of women
66% of infections attributed to heterosexual contact
67% of children, ages < 13

African American Males

African American men accounted for 42% of HIV cases diagnosed among men in 2011. A majority (72%) of African American men with HIV contracted the disease by male to male contact while 19% contracted HIV through heterosexual exposure.

African American Females

Among African American women, high risk heterosexual contact was the most frequently cited mode of transmission, accounting for 89% of cases diagnosed in 2011.

How is his relationship with his family members?

Don't allow your pride to get in the way of finding out how close he is or if he isn't with his family members. If you seriously want to be in this guy's life for the long run then pop the question. Just by finding out if he has a relationship with his mother, father, auntie, or even uncles and cousins can help you understand him more. If you want a family or a family man then ask. If you don't know if he has a child you might not know about then ask. 

What are his long term and short term goals?

It would benefit you and your relationship in the long run if you asked and found out if he truly has any long term and short term goals. By finding out this information it can help you understand if he is a man who is motivated to achieve goals and if he is a goal setter. It is an amazing conversation starter as well. 

What is his religion or do he believes in God? 

If you are a woman who believes in Jesus Christ and he does not then 'sometimes' things don't end up working out. If you are soul searching for someone that has similar beliefs as you do then asking this question will surely bring you some clarity. 

What are his greatest fear(s) in life?

Finding out what his fears are can really be enlightening for not only you, but for him. Allow him to open up and mentally stimulate you with his emotions and answers. Hopefully, his greatest fear isn't getting thrown in jail for back child-support by his ex.girlfriend or wife. 

Don't be afraid. Be bold and confident. Don't ever settle before knowing your true worth and value! Discover your inner strength one step at a time with
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